Retrieve The Corporate Dominatrix: Six Roles To Play To Get Your Way At Work Imagined By Lisa Robyn Available As Textbook

enjoyed reading this book a few years ago, Recently I have been sharing the ideas with my fiancé who is being bullied at work, The ideas in this book can help a person free themselves from the opinions or attitudes of others, and focus on the thoughts that give them clarity and strength, Similar to the book "Laws of Power," but not as ruthless, This is a.star book. I didn't hate it. I didn't think it was okay either, I was intrigued by this book due to the title, As a switch who easily identifies with all six of these "play acting" roles Ms, Robyn categories, I can see her point,

First, props to Ms, Robyn for coming up with this idea, Her concept is sound. Her execution and research is what failed for me, It is obvious to one who is in the lifestyle that Ms, Robyn doesn't understand the lifestyle even at a surface level, The ones in the lifestyle didn't give her a good enough education on how BDSM works, Or Ms. Robyn didn't interpret and translate it well, Here's the thing. This isn't a fiction book, This is nonfiction. The research is going to be held at much higher level, Correlating BDSM would take more than reading the few books mentioned as references, Books which are outdate and one which I roll my eyes at, Since this book is published in, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt, She just didn't know where to look and what few people willing to talk to her were just what she could find, It's too bad she didn't interview anyone from the Black Rose Society or the actual authors of the BDSM books she referenced,

Ms. Robyn keeps talking about SampM, What she's reference more is D/s, Her examples tie closer to dominance and submission rather than the SM parts, She talks about power exchange constantly yet doesn't fully understand what she's talking about as it pertains to BDSM which is annoying, She's just scratching the surface, It's like trying to say that company culture would be so much better if we were all to follow the airline Southwest's policy, What is their policy Why, it's to be fun! They are fun! That's how we can be successful, Right

Another point she makes up front is that Dominatrix at work involves no sex or emotional entanglements as does SM, Although she is quick to point out that professional domintrix don't get paid to have sex either, This one point makes me laugh because BDSM doesn't always involve sex either, Specifically those who are just into SM, Theses don't expect any sex nor do they involve emotions either, So this goes to show again Ms, Robyn's lack of understanding in regards to BDSM and the many different flavours of it,

Second, some of the correlations Ms, Robyn makes between BDSM and corporate culture are negative, For example, explain to BDSM folks that the schoolgirl's power is all about topping from the bottom, Get ready to have most of those in the lifestyle to shutdown and not listen to another word coming out of the person's mouth, Newsflash Topping from the Bottom, especially the way Ms, Roybn states in here is not recommended in the lifestyle, It's a quick way to end up without any partners to scene with,

Third, Ms. Robyn completely misses the point on how power exchange works which really bugs me, Every archtype created here is a "game" to her, It's all about manipulation and acting, This could be because the ones she talked to were professional dominatrix who get paid to dominate a bottom, When it comes to a healthy power exchange, it is based on communication, trust and a giving/receiving, Ms. Robyn's suggestions may work in the short term but for long term, I'd guess they would fail, Because, there is a lack of authenticity, Without authenticity, it won't work because people who are submitting will feel as if they are being lied to and used,

Now, let's review on thearchtypes: Goddess, Queen, Governess, Amazon, Nurse and Schoolgirl, Do these work Actually yes, Ms. Robyn does a good job of providing characteristics and how one would behave, Are her suggestions of how to respond to a situation good They are fair, nothing totally new,

What would be good is to have better examples of women in the business world correlating to each of these archtypes, Using celebrities without researched interviews with them makes this book come across as more an editorial opinion, If Ms. Robyn found two to three Csuite executive women in the Fortunecompanies per archtype, researched them and provided either examples or interviews, this book would lend more creditability,

Fourth, the most offensive part of this book is pagesthrough, It talks about Corporate mind games, administrative fetishes and exectricities, The way she ties what she considers BDSM fetishes to corporate behaviour is abhorrent, It once again underscores just how little she researched into the BDSM lifestyle, It's insulting and I wouldn't recommend anyone male or female to pay attention to these pages, Seriously, here's an excerpt:

INFANTALISM AND AGE PLAY: Has your boss talked to you like you were two instead of thirtytwo Being treated like a child is meant to make you feel inferior.
Conversely, senior executives can act like babies, Don't fall for it everyone needs to act their age and you may need to administer a dose of reality, The Nurse is the role you would use for this tactic, p.

This derogatory example and assumption of what ageplay and infantalism or ABDL as we call it isn't about inferiority, This shows a complete lack of research and understanding into this fetish, I'm disgusted with misinterpretation. This misunderstanding is what BDSM find in BDSM PORN you know, the books people know are fantasies and use to masturbate with, This once again makes me question where Ms, Robyn went for her research material, This leads me all to a conclusion about this book, This book just tried too hard to fit BDSM as a gimmick into a

empowering female business book,

Lastly, there is a comment where Ms, Robyn notes a dominatrix can immediately identify if a person is dominant or submissive,

When I spent time with professional dominatrices, I noticed they could nail someone's MO or modus operandi from a mile away, One dominarix would just point and rattle off the labels "submissive" and dominant" as we walked down the street! Her antenna was so tuned in to body language and facial expressions that she knew immediately what everyone's power vibe was.
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Whilst this is a skill set people can cultivate, the way it's presented here is no different than someone claiming to have gaydar, What proof do we have that this so called dominatrix was actually accurate
Even though there are a few gems in this book, they are few and far between.
I wouldn't recommend this to any of my female mentees, I thought this book was just okay, It didn't give information that I thought was useful, It was a lot of examples in my opinion,

A few good tidbits here and there, Written for women, but equally infomative for men, Should prove to be an intriguing read for those interested in the interplay of power, gender roles, corporate culture and interpersonal psychology, Really interesting theory about women's unique abilities in the workplace, This is a great resource for women dealing with a complex power system at the workplace some situations are more complex than others, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and identifying with certain roles, What can I say, this is a powerful book without being Machiavellian, A truly Machiavellian book would be grating, The concepts or female figureheads documented are: Queen, Goddess, Governess, Amazon, Nurse and Schoolgirl, It gave me a better understanding of power dynamics and not be angered when someone pulls that on me off guard,

Reading this, it has helped me identify the general roles people play during interactions, and the book has also helped me understand that people are not one dimensional but a hotpot of personalities and feelings.
I have not truly imbibed the 'girls' into my psyche, but I am trying to slowly let it sink in,
This was a great place to start when you're more/less new to being an adult, and you have to learn the "language" of being in an office/corporate America.
It helps females cope and use their strengths/added insight to trek through harsh realities of corporate life unscathed, The Corporate Dominatrix exposes the workplace for what it truly is: a social sadomasochistic wonderland one in which some people have power and some do not, thus creating an unbalanced commandandcontrol dynamic.
Using the psychological tools of the professional dominatrix, Lisa Robyn shows women how to roleplay their way to success by employing the tactics of six mistress archetypes: Goddess, Queen, Amazon, Governess, Nurse, and Schoolgirl.
For a dominatrix in everyday life, the key to effectiveness lies in being switchable knowing when to be firm and direct and when to be flexible and accommodating.
The Corporate Dominatrix dominates without being domineering and is submissive without being subservient, She stands up for her rights in an open and straightforward way, and she is confident enough to intuit what her clients or colleagues want and she responds accordingly,

Robyn provides a compelling strategy for women to get their way at work by choosing the appropriate role to fit the particular situation, while always behaving in a professional manner that earns respect.
Filled with examples and practical tips, this provocative business book will help every businesswoman advance to the position she wants and truly become the mistress of her domain,

Power becomes you, . . Use it wisely. .