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very practical, helpful book for anyone in a close relationship with someone with Asperger's Sydrome, Really helpful,practical advice that focuses on both the NT and AS partner and how they can work together, This was interesting. I began reading it after a nasty misunderstanding with my spouse and found some helpful coping mechanisms within, The main reason I'm giving it just three is that it was focused so intensely on keeping the Aspie partner at ease and calm above everything else that I felt like it didn't address the fact that the neurotypical partner also has needs which are just as important.
I didn't like the fact that it seemed to be telling me the entire way through that my needs were secondary to my spouse, In my opinion, any relationship should be based upon equality regardless of the brain chemistry of one partner or the other, While I greatly appreciated the sections that did offer insights into how to better communicatesomething that has always been difficult for usI just couldn't shake the overall sense that the authors placed the Aspie partner in a place of higher importance.
That's not how I want my marriage to work,
I fully admit that perhaps I'm too jaded and sad for this to have really been as effective as I was hoping it would be, As previously mentioned, there was some helpful advice, so if you find yourself in this type of relationship, it may be worth a gander, It just didn't entirely work for me, I didn't even finish reading this, as it was written so horribly, Being married to a guy with Asperger's, I found this book insulting, as it basically says "your partner will never be what you want them to be, they will never help out, so fill in the gaps yourself and live with it.
" Truly negatively written. Even my husband hated it, Three reviews from our CALEB reviewers:
Weston, herself married to someone with Aspergers, presents a wellresearched, honest and compelling treatise on recognising and dealing with this difficult syndrome.
It gives heartrending insight into the world of the Asperger sufferer, and the sad, isolating and confusing life of their partners and families, However, she also provides plenty of practical, faith and hopefilled advice on how to make life, not only more bearable, but enjoyable and loving once more for the person with Asperger and their loved ones.
This is an important, informative and encouraging book, WN
This is a truly helpful book, Well done.
Booksellers Choice reviewer CALEB Prize
Living with an Aspergers sufferer is never easy and often frustrating but nevertheless with understanding and commitment life can be enriching, rewarding and successful for both the Asperger and partner.
Aspergers Syndrome is a neurodevelopment disorder where the brain is wired differently from that of the majority of people, This results in both the sufferer and the partner having to negotiate mutually compatible skills to enable communication and understanding,
In Connecting with Your Asperger Partner, Louise Weston gifts readers with frequent glimpses into her own personal world, It is both a privilege and honour to journey with her and many others who contribute stories, hints on how to manage the unmanageable and maintain balance in their somewhat difficult and dizzy topsyturvy world.
I would recommend this book as a mustread for all with an Asperger partner and as an invaluable helping tool for pastors and counsellors, I personally gained much knowledge of what is needed to deal with and survive
this little known disorder,
One significant criticism is that throughout the book the sufferer is referred to as an Aspie, This is explained as a term of affection and while this is undoubtedly true, the knowledge did not prevent me from feeling considerable irritation, However, this was more than compensated for by the excellent content,
Informative
the Informative, personal perspective, accessible style make this a good starting point into the journey of understanding a partner on the spectrum.
The most annoying thing I've read in a long time, It actually made me throw up in my mouth a little,
Your husband is a PERSON, not a DOG, woman!
Your book should be titled 'Obedience training for spouses with Aspergers' or even 'without Aspergers', for that matter.
Or maybe 'How to manipulate your partner and how it's even easier with Aspies',
And don't get me even started on the disrespectful language yes, it's actually 'my aspie' instead of 'my husband' throughout the entire book!! and the presumptious attitude,
This book does absolutely do NOTHING for a better understanding of Aspergers or differently wired minds in general,
Because quite frankly, this book is NOT about Aspergers, but all about straightening out your partner to your convenience, And maybe about how to take advantage of your spouse's condition in reaching that goal, should they happen to be on the autism spectrum,
I can't remember the last time a book made me so mad, Communication and intimacy can feel like a constant struggle in relationships where one partner has Asperger Syndrome AS, For the neurotypical partner NT in particular, this can be an endless source of frustration, misunderstandings, and tears,
Drawing on her own experience of being married to a man with AS, Louise Weston shows that the road to intimacy begins with letting go of expectations and looking after your own physical and emotional needs.
She provides triedandtested strategies for relating to and connecting with your AS partner, as well as useful tips for coping with hurtful words and meltdowns, helping your partner to interpret emotions, and finding further sources of help and support.
Above all, she shows that although your AS/NT relationship will challenge you beyond what you ever thought possible, by letting go of expectations and respecting each others' differences, this unique partnership really can be both happy and successful.
Brimming with stories and advice from other NT partners, this practical book will help NTs take positive steps towards connecting with their AS partners, It will also be a useful resource for counsellors and other professionals who wish to deepen their understanding of AS/NT relationships, .