Pick Up When Hello Means Goodbye Outlined By Pat Schwiebert Issued As EPub

love this book! What do you say or do for a mother who's lost their child at, slightly after or before being birthed This small book helps you hear in the words of these mothers their pain and anger.
The authors give psychological insight into a women's mental and emotional situation, A good read as starting point to understanding and helping women cope with their loss, Kara and I were expecting our fourth girl in January, On September,, we found out the the baby no longer had a heartbeat, Kara delivered our little Hope on Sept,,roughlyweeks.

This book is written mainly

for mothers, but it includes sections for fathers, grandparents, and children, Includes practical information about decisions to make, including an autopsy, a funeral home and cemetery, funeral arrangements, etc, But we didn't use this book for any of those things,

Other practical advice include taking pictures of your baby, even if it seems unnatural black and white is best many parents wish that they had.
Doing so helps combat the fear that you will forget many of the details, Naming the baby and not saving the name for another child is also important, More practical advice includes how to remember your child during holidaysand how books can help,

I was interested in how medical perceptions have changed over time, demonstrating that cultural Christianity can be a very positive force.
For example, hospital policies used to treat a miscarriage or stillbirth as a "medical misfortune" and not as "the human tragedy that it is".
The book attributes this change to added information and speaking with parents, but I think it's more than that, A related example is that "in the past, mothers of stillborn children or critically ill babies were automatically placed on a ward away from the postpartum area of the hospital," partly to protect bereaved mothers from hearing the cries of other newborns.
"We now believe that the most helpful and compassionate care we can give you is on the postpartum floor", "In the past, hospital personnel were wrong in thinking that the best thing for parents was to remove the memories of their tragedy as quickly as possible".


: "You expect to lose your parents, but you do not expect to lose your child, " "When your parent dies you've lost your past, but when your child dies you've lost your future, "
: C. S. Lewis: "No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear, " from A Grief Observed
: "Children are far more capable of understanding such things than we generally give them credit for.
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: a psychologist, counselor, or pastor can help
: interesting comparison to "brown" dwarf, which "are not quite massive enough to sustain a nuclear fusion reaction at their cores" see sitelinkhere I think this book is a helpful resource for dealing with infant loss.
However, the book is all over the place, The flow and layout are just awful, I feel like it barely skims the surface of many issues, The book didn't quite know what it wanted to be, Did it want to be a source of comforting words Did it want to be a resource of information to wade through as you could It is slightly both, but fully neither.
It could have just been so much better executed, especially since it is such an important and heavy topic, It felt like a booklet because it is really too short to be called a proper book full of random pamphlet information.
This is an amazing book and descriptive book A book of encouragement for bereaved parents, especially of stillborn babies, This is also helpful for those who are grieving for losses from infant loss beyond stillborn, Coming from the Netherlands inI was struck by the number of books published in the U, S. about infant loss. This is one of the titles that brought solace during period of grief and mourning after my baby had died at birth inand the following four miscarriages.
There's nothing like recognition of what you've gone through/ are going through yourself, . . This book is designed for families whose baby has just died, but we read it initially after our daughter was diagnosed with a terminal birth defect.
I read it again before she was born four months later and again a week later after her death, Periodically I reread it to remind myself that although the outside world pretends that nothing happened, that we have every right to grieve for our baby.


When Hello Means Goodbye effectively gives parents permission to fully parent their dead baby as much as is possible in the brief time given them.
Parents are encouraged to name, hold, photograph, bathe and dress their baby, as well as sing, cuddle, and share their babyor anything else they may feel they want to do.
Many times people feel it is "wrong" to do these things, but the authors gently and firmly show through other parents' stories, poems and photos that it is the most natural thing in the world.
They talk you through the beginnings of grief and give an overview of what to expect as you adjust to life without your little one.


Although brief, this book really helps, Highly recommended for anyone who has lost a baby or who deals with perinatal loss nurses, doctors, social workers, etc, .