this Focus on the Family book, Dr, Emerson Eggerichs makes a very simple proposition most of the problems between a man and his wife are communication gaps, Furthermore, these divides can be overcome if the couple can embrace the true meaning of Ephesians:, “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
” While this may seem like easy concepts to understand, Dr, Eggerichs explains the common ways men and women fail to grasp them, Using examples from couples that he has counseled, the author covers the wide array of things that can go wrong when a man and his wife fail to employ the wisdom of Ephesians:.
In fact, it is these case studies that will strike home with most readers as they will inevitably see a little of themselves in the examples.
After examining the common ways couples can fail to show true love and respect to one another, Dr, Eggerichs provides clear ways for a man and wife to immediately change their ways,
I was grateful for the following on page, “Wives, When I talk about respecting your husband, I do not mean being a doormat.
I do not mean burying your brains, never showing your leadership ability, or never disagreeing in the slightest way, I do not mean that mean that he is superiorand you are inferior in some way, Nor do I want you to ignore your hurts and vulnerabilities, ” In that single paragraph, Eggerichs dispells the misinterpretations of Scriptures that have been used in the past
to justify the mistreatment of women.
My only quibble with this book is that Eggerichs seems to belabor his points a little, Long after I had a grasp on his theme of unconditional love for women and unconditional respect for men, he was still going on about it.
At overpages, I think he could of shaved off aboutpages with ease, Otherwise, this is an excellent book that I highly recommend for married couples who would like to strengthen their relationship in a Godly manner.
Okay, so I'm a lifelong single guy, Still, most of my good friends are of the opposite gender, as are most of my extended family membersaunts, female cousins, etc.
who I talk to often, However, I've also had plenty of problems with the fairer sex, as well most of the people who have unfriended me on Facebook have fallen into that category, and many of them were my coevals.
So, my track record with the ladies has been kind of a mixed bag,
That's why the message of this book was important to me, Sure, I can respect people I've even tried to be an advocate for people or pets that got on my nerves, I hate to see any human being get mistreated, regardless of who he/she is or what he/she has done, Respecting people isn't enough, though you have to show love, After all, the greatest commandments tell us to love God and to love our neighbor, This book inspired me to make a change on that front, Like many Christian books, the authors have a really insightful point, namely that women need love and men need respect, They make this point really well in aboutpages, The rest of the book is a broken record containing this same point told over, . . and over and over and over and over and over and well, you get the point, Some of the stories are humorous, and they definitely help make the point in the beginning, But after aboutpages there is no new information, just a repetition of the same mantra, Don't waste your money. Just ask someone to share the DVD with you from the back of the book, The DVD is aminute book promo that gives you the basic gist of the entire book in onlyminutes, Stop watching after that unless you enjoy watching infomercials, Good point, but it's overblown to sell books, Editing my review. Now that I've done some reading about this book and how problematic it is, I actually got the book off of my shelves and threw it in the garbage.
And if you know me, I don't ever throw books away, so there definitely is something wrong with this book,
If you want to learn more about this book and how horrible the teachings are particularly in a marriage where there is abuse, check out Sheila Gregoire's evidence based analysis of this author's books and teachings:
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God wants us to have healthy, mutual, supportive marriages, Not marriages where the balance of power is so skewed,
Know more. Do better. This BOOK is very popular as IT seeks to provide advice to strengthen marriages by ending the "crazy cycle" of spouses' reacting to each other.
However, this BOOK unwittingly exchanges one crazy cycle for another, The advice contained in the BOOK is predicated on a "complementarian" view of marriage, a controversial position that claims God has ordained husbands to lead wives.
Readers who agree with this position may find this BOOK helpful in implementing a game plan, . . or they may find themselves on a new treadmill,
Results may vary, Read this BOOK with caution, Love amp Respect is one of the worst socalled biblical books on marriage that I have ever read which is not an over exaggeration.
The writer's egregious exegesis should not be ignored, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs clearly hates women and uses twisted biblical concepts to degrade and humiliate women while promoting male superiority, At no time does he acknowledge that love is God's first priority, His video series is equally demeaning to women and glorifies the male ego to the exclusion of a woman's Godgiven needs, He is rude, caricatureish, disrespectful, and abusive to women all while attempting to be funny, Eggerichs essentially blames women for the majority of all problems in marriage while giving a free pass to men on their sinful nature which is the result of the fall of man from a Christian's perspective.
I found this book to be misogynistic drivel based on gross misinterpretation of one scripture verse which is wholly unsupported by Christ's own example of male/female relationships in the Bible.
Eggerichs carefully yet decidedly fails to support his androcentric arguments without once pointing to Christ Himself, The book has a thinly veiled bitter tone against women throughout however, the DVD seminar punctuates clearly Eggerichs true motives in presenting such biblically unsupported material: to feed his ego and gain attention/admiration.
Eggerichs is a classic narcissist,
One of the more glaring tools of manipulation that Eggerichs uses to shame women into showing respect for their husbands, without holding husbands accountable for selfishness, is the “he would die for you” mantra which, by the way, is wholly unsupported by scripture.
The reality is that there are numerous examples in the Bible beginning with Adam that speak directly OPPOSITE to this assertion and he cleverly ignores these examples in favor of his own eartickling words.
In my opinion, Eggerichs deliberating fails to recognize that Adam, in his prefallen state selfishly allowed Eve to make his decision for him in lieu of following the truth that he received firsthand from God Almighty, and then does not hesitate to throw Eve under the bus for his lack of leadership.
Did Adam willingly choose to die for Eve as a result No, He blamed her in order to save his own skin for his sinfulness and then when that didn't work, he blamed God.
Heres another example that shows a lack of “he would die for you” mentality in the Bible by socalled Godly men.
Have we forgotten Abraham who tried to save his own neck by portraying Sarah as only his sister and not also his wife to the Pharaoh of Egypt Abraham was so fearful of losing his own life that he said to Sarah, “I know what a beautiful woman you are.
When the Egyptians see you, they will say, 'this is his wife, ' Then they will kill me but will let you live, Say you are my sister, so that I will be treated well for your sake and my life will be spared because of you.
" Not exactly supportive of Eggerichs demanding insistence that being respectful somehow makes a man want to die for his wife, Utter excrement! There are other meaningful examples as well such as King David but I need not belabor the point that Eggerichs has no Biblically supported clue regarding man's inherent and ungodly lack of desire to protect anyone but himself.
Eggerichs is extraordinarily prideful in the presentation of the material that he so obviously wants to be true regardless of Biblical evidence to the contrary.
He's made a fortune on this false dichotomy, in fact, This book is remarkably redundant, poorly written, and strongly biased in its message, I remind you that respect is not something exclusive in terms of need to men or have we forgottenPeter:ampI would never recommend this book and/or video series to anyone seeking to seriously understand and improve their marriage in God's way.
If I could give this book half a star, I would,
For a greater understanding of my concerns regarding Eggerichs LampR, please follow the link below to review Mark Baker's academic study regarding the many flaws of this damaging teaching.
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