Catch Hold Of Message From An Unknown Chinese Mother: Stories Of Loss And Love Engineered By Xinran Delivered In Leaflet

women's advocate, and adoption charity director/founder, Xinran provides an incredible insight into the stories and insights into the women and their families in China who give up their daughters.


Intercountry adoption is a personal interest of mine, and I found this book heartbreaking and an eye opener.
There are so many reasons why children are abandoned or worse in China, Many people immediately turn to the 'one child policy' as a blanket reason, There are pressures from family to bear a son to take care of the family and worship the ancestors, there are also survival needs, with boys being allocated greater land resources for farming.
The choices that they make must be so difficult and devastating, yet they have also become a cultural, way of life/way things are done also.


Xinran was also able to document some personal stories from inside the orphanages in China and provide some answers to some questions that prospecitve and adoptive parents ask all the time.
Why are the controls tightened when there are so many children abandoned What are the conditions like What are the processes

Loaded full of information, yet written with compassion and gentleness to the Good Women of China.
Following her internationally bestselling book The Good Women of China, Xinran has written one of the most powerful accounts of the lives of Chinese women.
Her searing stories of mothers who have been driven to abandon their daughters or give them up for adoption is a masterful and significant work of literary reportage and oral history.


Xinran has gained entrance to the most pained, secret chambers in the hearts of Chinese mothersstudents, successful businesswomen, midwives, peasantswho have given up their daughters.
Whether as a consequence of the singlechild policy, destructive ageold traditions, or hideous economic necessity, these women had to give up their daughters for adoption others even had to watch as their baby daughters were taken away at birth and drowned.
Xinran beautifully portrays the “extrabirth guerrillas” who travel the roads and the railways, evading the system, trying to hold on to more than one baby naïve young girl students who have made lifewrecking mistakes the “pebble mother” on the banks of the Yangzte River still looking into the depths for her stolen daughter peasant women rejected by their families because they cant produce a male heir and Little Snow, the orphaned baby fostered by Xinran but confiscated by the state.


For parents of adopted Chinese children and for the children themselves, this is an indispensable, powerful, and intensely moving book.
Message from an Unknown Chinese Mother is powered by love and by heartbreak and will stay with readers long after

they have turned the final page.
La discriminazione e il maltrattamento delle donne che partoriscono prole di sesso femminile, o sofferenti di infertilità, sono proibiti.
La discriminazione o il maltrattamento e l'abbandono di neonati di sesso femminile sono proibiti,
Art., Legge della Repubblica Popolare Cinese sulla popolazione e sulla pianificazione delle nascite, entrata in vigore il,
Leggete bene questo articolo di legge, Leggetelo più volte per essere certi di comprenderne le implicazioni profonde,
E allora sarete colti dallo sgomento,
Quando poi leggerete questo bellissimo libro della giornalista Xinran, farete davvero tanta fatica a restare impassibili, Il libro è una sorta di inchiesta sul fenomeno diffuso dell'abbandono delle figlie femmine da parte delle famiglie cinesi, una 'sorta' perche' e' molto incentrato sul carattere sentimentale di tale fenomeno il titolo in inglese e' "Message from an unknown Chinese mothers: stories of loss and love", in cui e' assente qualsiasi aspetto di ricerca scientifica: sono vari racconti in cui l'autrice espone alcune vicende realmente avvenute di cui e' stata testimone in prima persona.
Per quanto possa essere interessante rendersi conto delle realta' sociali di un paese cosi' diverso dal nostro, cosa che Xinran riesce a trasmettere abbastanza bene, la dedizione ad un unico tema e l'ossessione dell'autrice per il rapporto madrefiglia, mi ha fatto pesare molto questa lettura.
E' ovviamente un argomento su cui riflettere, ma dopo tre, quattro storie che alla fin fine son sempre le stesse, uno comincia a stufarsi.
Avrei preferito molto di piu' un romanzo che affrontasse questo tema in modo meno diretto o addirittura una vera e propria inchiesta che lo trattasse in modo piu' esaustivo e da piu' punti di vista invece che solo in questa maniera sentimentalistica.

Voto:This book is the back story to all those little Chinese girls people from the West adopt.
It's heartbreaking to see that the Chinese government with its policies on land grants and extra food distribution on the birth of a boy child only together with the onechild policy have set the scene for the murder of newborn baby girls, which is expected and never prosecuted.
Those who can't bear to 'do' as the euphemism goes their daughters, or pay the midwife to 'do' them, abandon them.
As the orphanages have become an important business resource for the Chinese, selling the little girls to Westerners, there is less need to murder them and that in a very small way is a good but unbelievably sad thing.


China has to be the most corrupt government in the entire world to sanction the murder of babies.
Beats even Yemen where they repealed the relatively new law not allowingyear girls to be sold married off after sitelinkI Am Nujood, Ageand Divorced came out in favour of a minimum age of.
The law was repealed because there were big protests saying the law was unIslamic Mohammed married ayear old girl and the law now is that it is for the parents father to decide when his daughter should be married.
Here are some pretty pics of little girls who should be in primary school married to men their father's or grandfather's age.
sitelink dailymail. co. uk/news/artic

The last story in the book is a very sad one but gives no hope for the future at all.
The author makes the aquaintance of an internationallytravelling executive high up in the Chinese Adoption Services, She and her husband gave up their baby girl because she didn't have time to look after it and keep her executive job and they didn't for some reason want a nanny.
She was wracked with guilt, as she should be, giving excuses of a better life for the child being adopted abroad, but it was hard to feel any sympathy for her.
It just seems that girls aren't worth making sacrifices for,

The book ends on a very sad and cynical note, It is with a document, the law and all its clauses pertaining to adoption in China, The lip service given to the protection of girl babies is somehow even worse than acknowledging that it's perfectly fine to murder or abandon these infants.
If a problem isn't acknowledged then no solution is possible because one just isn't seen as needed, or worse, any suggestions might be punished as they suggest that the law, the State, is imperfect.


The single baby system is officially at an end, Not because the world is looking aghast at all this statesponsored murder but because there are too many males without women roaming in marauding posses in some areas, kidnapping girls, wives even, in others and in general bringing the kind of social difficulties that young lads often do, but made worse without even the possibility of sex, young love and marriage for many of them.
The other factor is that China is an ageing population as technology keeps more alive for longer, someone has to work to pay for the care of old people, not just the pensions, but the housing and the medical care.
Hence more young people to pay taxes are necessary, But still, so many thousands of years of desiring boys and of girls being the booby prize, that isn't likely to go any time soon.


I read the book in sadness and in anger, The war isn't between the races, political systems, the various military battles over land, it is between men and women.
As long as men make laws that control how women should live their lives and their bodies and where there is an obvious devaluation of women compared to men, then that is the war all good people, men and women, should be standing up to fight.
We are different from each other but each life is equal and that should be enshrined in every law, rule and religious precept in the entire world, otherwise it is just domination by the strong on those who have been kept weak.


This review is all over the place because it wasn't written in any order and the paragraphs were just ported around a bit willynilly, which is how I feel about the book along with my confusion, sadness, anger and sympathy for the mothers, the babies and the poor fathers who never even considered the special love an adoring daughter has for her Daddy.
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