Grab Instantly Is That Me Yelling?: A Parents Guide To Getting Your Kids To Cooperate Without Losing Your Cool Planned By Rona Renner Published As Interactive EBook

guide and advice for parents,babysitters, and grandparents, Always good to review good parenting skills and advice, even as a grandparent, Some useful information that I hope to implement, I have found myself more and more frustrated with my oldest son not listening and being rude and with that Ive been yelling more.
I realized this wasnt good for either of us and while I cant force him to change I can make changes and hope they have a positive effect on him.
Most of it Im sure will be repeated in other parenting books but the way this was written made me feel like I wasnt alone and had some great advice for calmly dealing with situations as they come up.
I will definitely be using some of what was discussed, Is this me yelling. Was a great book. It helped me learn that youncan take the time to learn how to not lose control, I am extremely happy I got the chance to read this book and would recommend this book to any parent that is trying to change there attitude towards there children when it comes to yelling.


I think every parent should read this book it is amazing! This book provides a cognitive behavioral approach to reducing parental yelling and increasing cooperation.
I recommend this book for all parents as it provides clear advice on discipline and connection and developing mindfulness and awareness.
Many good ideas to help cope with the stress of everyday parenting challenges, Once you get through the slow but necessary parts, This was amazing. Everything Ms. Renner had to say really resonated with me, I am not always a "yeller," but I can be, and I certainly was raised in a household full of it.
I am striving not to raise my son that way, to stop and catch myself and moderate my reactions.
I found much to inspire me in this book, If money permitted I would purchase this for everyone I know with a child or even a partner/spouse.

It goes without saying that I will be trying some of Ms, Renner's strategies with my sensitive, highactivity, highintensity, slowtoadapt, persistent child ASAP, to come! I am not sure how I stumbled upon this book, but I am glad I did.
I never thought I would be a yeller, and up until a couple of years ago I wasn't.
This is a very insightful book and has definitely opened my eyes to how to better deal with things parenting related and other things too in a more peaceful way.


I definitely recommend this one if you feel like you have become a "yeller", : Not giving up on this one, I've been reading it aloud to my husband and just ran out of time, One request again. This was another book that called to me from the parenting shelves of the library, which are conveniently located for browsing with one eye while with the other I try to make sure my sixyearold doesn't boss around the toddlers at the train table too much.


When we got it home, my tenyearold began reading it first, as she does with most parenting books.
And also as she does with most parenting books, she gave me advice based one what she'd read.


"The first few chapters just give background, Mom," she explained after I'd yelled one morning and then noted that I should really be reading that book from the library.
"The suggestions for how not to yell are in the second half of the book, "

When I printed the supplementary temperament scales from the publisher's website, she had me print extras for her so she could rate herself and her brother separately and then we could compare notes.


"What I find," she said on another occasion, "is that often when I start yelling about one thing, I end up getting carried away and yelling about something totally unrelated.
I think you might do the same thing sometimes, Mom, "

I have to remind myself that the kid can't actually parent herself, even though I feel tempted to assume that she can when she says this kind of stuff.


It could have been annoying to have my preteen looking over my shoulder while I was trying not to yell so much, but so far I've actually found it helpful.
She seems to have empathy for the work that I'm doing and the changes I'm trying to make, which seems to make her more patient with me.
I feel a little weird about this, but so long as I just appreciate it and don't depend on it, I think we're okay.
She's also tried to apply some of the suggestions to her own behaviors, We don't talk much about it, but it's nice to have a silent companion on this path,

There's not much new in this book, but that's fine, I like the stories, and it reinforces those things that I already know to do but forget over time, like the need for selfcare yes, I do in fact tend to yell more after a night when I've had less than five hours of sleep, considering the temperament of myself and my children, and modifying my expectations based on the circumstances.


Unlike some other books I've read along these lines, this one avoids scripted responses and instead encourages a shift in how parents see the situation that triggers their yelling.
It also mentions but doesn't harp on how awful it is to yell at our kids, as some other books I've read do.
If I'm reading a book to help me stop yelling, it's a pretty safe bet I'm already aware of at least some of the downsides of yelling and don't need to be hit over the head with how horrible I am for losing my cool around my kids more often than I'd like.
Rona Renner didn't try to make me feel like crap, which I appreciated,

In fact, the tone of the book is one of understanding and selfcompassion, which I found really pleasant.
The compassionate selfresponsibility it promotes appeals to me, and the practical suggestionslike lowering one's voice when one is tempted to yellhave been very effective so far.
My kids respond better, and I'm less likely to lapse into selfloathing after I've had to address behavior issues.


My spouse also noticed a difference, I was talking with him on the phone the other day while the kids were doing their postlunch chores.
I heard screaming from the kitchen and ran in to find that my son had taken a swipe at his sister with the broom he was supposed to be using to sweep the floor.
"Hang on, Honey," I said into the phone and then proceeded to assess the situation, determine both that my daughter was only slightly injured and that my son was just as shocked at his behavior as his sister had been, and then participate in a hugfest, all with the phone pinned between my ear and my shoulder.


"Wow," said my spouse when the kids were once again engaged in the proper, noncombat use of kitchen cleaning implements.
"I'm really glad I heard that, You handled that like a pro, "

Of course, that was during the week I was getting eightplus hours of sleep every night, taking a walk after dinner every evening, and avoiding all sugar, alcohol, and caffeine, along with maintaining constant awareness of my moods and the moods of my children throughout the day.
I cannot sustain this level of awesomeness all the timeindeed, I've already scrapped the "adequate sleep" plan again in favor of the "frantically cleaning house at midnight" planbut it was pleasant to see that it's possible.


Aside from the cover, which essentially shouts, "I YELL AT MY KIDS" when I pull the book out of my purse to read in public, my biggest beef with the book is the yelling log.
I hate log sheets. I suspect that I might be yelling less just to minimize how often I have to fill out my yelling log, but I suppose that counts as yet another way this book has been effective in helping me modify my yelling habit.
I'm not always a yeller but this was a great book, A lot of great strategies to help you understand why you reach your peak and how to avoid it.
I borrowed it from the library but am considering purchasing a copy to reference back to, Imagine a world in which
there are no wars
people resolve conflicts by talking to each other and coming to agreements for the benefit of all
no one goes hungry or is without a home
there are free childcare centers with wellpaid, loving staff
the core school curriculum includes lessons in kindness, generosity, empathy, community service, nature, and climate health
a child's love of music, art, dance, and discovery is valued in school
all neighborhoods are places where children are safe to play outdoors, and there is no fear of violence
when children are young, the community provides for parents so they can bond with their children
every neighborhood has a community garden
all children are happy, healthy, and cooperative.

World peace begins at home,

This book is a guide to how parents can discipline their children without yelling.
It discusses how parents should take into consideration their children's feelings before yelling at them, Learning your child's temperamental traits there areof them sensitivity, activity, intensity, adaptability, mood, approach/withdrawal, persistence, regularity or rhythmicity, and distractibility, as well as your own temperamental traits, was looked at in this book and should be done by everyone for a better understanding of self.

She discusses a couple tactics to use when you feel yourself getting upset, one of which is the "ABCDEs of Not Yelling" which she explains as Ask What am I feeling, Breathe, Calm yourself, Decide what your child needs, and Empathize.
The second tactic is the "C's of Discipline" which are Communication, Choices, Consequences, and Connection, Great book to read for parents who struggle with discipline, I will sheepishly admit that, while I picked up this book because I personally worry about my yelling, Ive since realized and learned that just raising my voice Im a pretty calm, quiet woman isnt what Renner wanted to illuminate.
However, I still found her words incredibly interesting and helpful, especially since, with a second child on the way and a recently adopted dog, the urge to actually yell has definitely gotten stronger.


I should specify, by the way, that Im not at all trying to separate myself from yellers because Im secretly judging all of them.
On the contrary, what I think is really vital about Renners book is that she doesnt go into the blame game or insert a solitary shred of guilt towards those who yell unless perhaps youre being purposefully abusive.
Instead of dealing with the yelling as something you can simply turn off or something youre less of a person for doing, she spends a great deal of the book teaching the reader introspection and understanding what makes us loose it.
She teaches easy to learn methods for examining your own patterns, acknowledging them, and working slowly to reform them mistakes expected: were only human right You definitely feel like youre not alone, that your emotions are valid.


Something I also really appreciated about the book was that it was in easy to consume little chunks.
No forcing yourself to try to read all of these theories at once and then try to make sense of them before bed.
Nope, you can pick this book up at any time that you have a few spare moments and get just what you need out of it.
Its clearly written and very easy to comprehend: accessible to all,
Insightful book that will make you examine the way you communicate with your children, I'd never realized how harmful and damaging raising ones voice can be too the development of one's children.


I received this as a Goodreads giveaway, Mindfulness explained and applied to raising children, Really clear and wellwritten book with a series of useful exercises to apply to ourselves and to the observation of the kids, useful tips and bibliographic sources to further expand the knowledge of the topic.


La mindfulness spiegata ed applicata al crescere i figli, Libro davvero chiaro e ben scritto con una serie di utili esercizi da applicare su se stessi e all'osservazione dei ragazzi, inoltre utili suggerimenti e fonti bibliografiche per ampliare ulteriormente la conoscenza dell'argomento.


THANKS TO NETGALLEY AND NEW HARBINGER PUBLICATIONS INC, FOR THE PREVIEW! When I came across Rona Renners Is That Me Yelling I knew I had to see if what she had to say would be valuable to me personally.
You see, I am a mom who chooses to work because I feel it allows me to have a better relationship with my kids.
And still, even though I am not cooped up with them all day every day, I am a mom who yells way more than I want to.


When it comes to parenting books, some people look for an overall philosophy to follow, Other than refraining from screaming at your kids, this book doesnt offer that type of overview nor the far reaching implications in any sort of depth.
Instead, I am happy to report, we are given real, in the thick of it ideas to help improve the way we handle stress around our kids.


If you are like me, always on the lookout for a book full of practical tips to deal with certain types of parenting scenarios, instead of just theoretical ideas, this book is for you.
Renner offers explanations for strategies such as tracking your yelling to learn when you are most vulnerable to fly off the handle, and the ABCDEs of not yelling to equip you with a thought process that allows you to keep your cool.


There are many valuable insights that I have been able to take away from this read.
For example you will find a temperament inventory that has helped me to understand why I clash with one of my children more than the others, and why my two oldest spend so much time arguing.
Not only have I been able to see the dynamics on an objective level, but the author offers her advice on how to shift expectations of behaviour and outcomes depending on the temperament traits innate to our little ones.


Over the few days that I have been going through this book, I have found myself applying the principles I have learned as I live life.
Particularly, as I feel my stress levels rise around the kidlets, I have been successfully employing what I have learned in order to remain more calm.


Is That Me Yelling will get in your head, and speak loudly and clearly as you go about your life in parent mode.
What I have learned has allowed me to

step back and think before my mouth starts moving, And when I am able to change the way I would normally do things, on the fly and in real life, I think thats when I can confidently recommend this as a helpful parenting tool that is definitely worthy of your time.


And any time I need a reminder of how to avoid raising my voice, I will come back and read through Ms.
Renners book again.


I received a copy of the book from Net Galley for review purposes,
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