Grasp The Batterer As Parent: Addressing The Impact Of Domestic Violence On Family Dynamics Drafted By Lundy Bancroft Classified In Brochure

child custody evaluator should have to read this book, The most useful work I've read in understanding how people who batter parent and use power, control and manipulation to destroy their partner's parenting ability.
A must read for every domestic and sexual violence worker, child welfare professional, victims and victim support people, This is a scholarly book and is greeted toward the professionals, If you have a dictionary handy it's worth it! For those who have every thought "women just know how to push men's buttons" or "they should just leave" read this.
This book explains in such a clear way the common traits and characteristics specific to that of a batter, keeping women in a cycle that carries on for long, extended periods of time.
The Batterer as Parent takes the reader inside of homes affected by domestic violence, imparting an understanding of the atmosphere that battering men create for the children who live with them.
Bancroft and Silverman show how partner abuse affects each relationship in a family, and explains how children's emotional recovery is inextricably linked to the healing and empowerment of their mothers.
The authors cover the important but oftenoverlooked area of the postseparation parenting behaviors of men who batter, including their use of custody litigation as a tool of abuse.
Readers also are guided in evaluating change in the parenting of men who batter, assessing risk to children from unsupervised visitation, and supporting the emotional recovery of children.
Although the book is written primarily for professionals, its accessible style makes it engaging and useful for abused mothers and anyone else wishing to assist children exposed to battering.
Phenomenal resource with great insight into the tactics of abusers, I read this one because of how much I learned from the angry men book, but it was just very dry and text book like.
It also repeated a lot of what I had already read in a much more technical jargon style,
For more reviews see my blog: sitelink blog This is a dry but interesting book, I'm not sure how one can make research so intriguing that you can't put it down, I think that if you are a person working with people in domestic violence situations, you need to read this book amp probably further your information with other sources as well.
I've wondered for a long time how batterer's are as parents amp how the children respond in these situations, This book helps lay out the limits that need to be applied for batterer's to improve the child's welfare amp not get drawn in by the manipulative tactics that batterer's use.
I came into this book with minimal understanding about domestic violence and situations with abusive spouses, I left reading this with a much greater idea of what the dynamics were in these situations, Lundy Bancroft is a super star when it comes to the reality of domestic violence, the civil legal system, and the impact this social epidemic has on families.
A great review of academic research on batterers and the potential risks involved in their parenting, Sobering and a little scary, but important information to have, I wish lawyers and judges involved in family law cases would all read this book, A must read for anyone who works with children or families, An extremely good book and should be read with sitelinkSee What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Violence and sitelinkWhy Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
The author's empathy and advocacy for domestic violence victims comes through very clearly in his writings and it's very heartening,

The first third of the book reviews and summarizes the key findings in Why Does He Do That, The second third is a review and critique of existing practices by professionals and family courts when it comes to the issue of domestic violence.
The last third is a list of recommendations to the different groups, professionals and organizations involved in working with batterers, abused children or women.


Everything Bancroft describes in the second section is what Jess Hill described in her book, See

What You Made Me Do.
The key issues wrong with the courts, the professionals, therapists, lawyers, custody evaluators etc, is that professionals underestimate how rampant domestic violence is, and they then use guidelines either better suited for nonviolent homes, or guidelines based off misogynistic and victimblaming theories like Freud's claims about women lying about rape and incest.


I am very interested in knowledge about domestic violence, but even so I found it very upsetting and hard to read this.
Although the authors are clearly empathetic and are just illustrating the examples briefly and factually, reading about cases where kids are made to stay with abusive batterers, or even a brief reference to a woman who was killed by her husband just a week after her attempt to seek help from the courts is just so, so upsetting.


My personal takeaways were that:professionals working in these fields are not traumainformed nor trained in domestic violence,batterers are extremely manipulative and articulate.
Before reading this book, I was full of confidence that I would never be fooled by the bullshit spouted by a man who abuses his wife.
After reading this, I can only say that I am now vaguely paranoid that if I worked in that field, I would probably be fooled.
the tendency to mistrust women's and children's experiences, feelings and opinions while rewarding and believing men for much less,children have highly ambivalent feelings towards their batterer fathers.
They do better when they do get to see their fathers after separation except for the most terrifying of batterers, They do feel love and affection for them, do want to express these feelings, despite their fear and anger etc,the strength of the bond between the child and the nonbattering parent is key to the child's recovery,

Children and teenagers' responses to battering fathers are a lot more complicated than I thought, Some may experience traumatic bonding, some identify with the father and take on his beliefs, words and actions as a survival tactic, some want his attention and approval.
I also very much appreciated Bancroft repeatedly emphasizing the resilience and creativity children display in resisting the batterer, which may then be pathologized or mislabelled in other contexts as problemseeking, risktaking, attention issues, emotional and behavioral issues, etc, when these are likely survival tactics.
Bancroft mentions that very little research has been done in this area and now I really want to read a book about it.


Overall, a really fantastic book, A mustread for anyone interested in domestic violence, men's violence against women, trauma, and children's issues, Lundy Bancroft is an author, workshop leader, and consultant on domestic abuse and child maltreatment, His best known book is Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men first published in.
Withyears of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families, he is a former co director of Emerge, the first counseling program in the United States for men who batter.
He has worked with abusers directly as an intervention counselor, and has served as clinical supervisor, He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness in domestic violence and child abuse cases.
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