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in the world is about sex, except sex, Sex is about power. " Oscar Wilde

Almost a century ago, it was believed that human males and females do not differ much in their sexual strategies.
Human sexual psychology was not studied extensively nor the evolutionary psychology behind it,

David M. Buss pioneered the field of evolutionary psychology, This book gives the evolutionary perspective behind human sexual desires, Analogously, he compared the mating strategies of humans and other species, Humans are complex beings. Unlike other species, human females do not undergo any oestrus cycle, Their most fertile period remains hidden, In response, humans developed special mating strategies to attract and retain mates,

These strategies were developed in response to evolution and are deeply embedded beyond our conscious evaluation.
This book discloses the strategic secrets of both genders to attract mates, It also gives the evolutionary reason for jealousy and deception, These two behaviours are a mechanism in finding and retaining a mate, This psychological adaptation of deceiving is targeted by cosmetic and clothing companies for profits, Often this puts an unrealistic expectation for both genders,

This book also covers the evolutionary reasons for extramarital affairs, homosexuality, patriarchy, and prostitution, There is no culture where patriarchy is not present, Yuval Noah Harari left the reason for patriarchy unanswered in his book Sapiens, It is answered by David M, Buss to some extent. In competition to attract mates, men strive to compete for more resources, It makes them want to hold more resources than females, This phenomenon was also evident where polygamy is in practice, In a polygamous society, men lose their wives separation and divorces if they lose their resources,

It was an interesting read, Even aliens will find this book informative, But for humans, they kind of already know the strategies, But humans and aliens would have preferred the shorter version of the book, They only had to omit the repetitions only,

Favourite Lines and vocabulary:
Mama's baby, Papa's maybe, :P
Mating market.

This book was awful, I chose to read this to complete a book review for my anthro seminar course for human reproduction.
The ideas he presented were so old school, sexist, and idiotic, There was no modern interpretations of human reproduction and no assessment on mating choices/practices that are actually happening in the real world.
His data collection method was flawed, the survey itself was biased, To think ANYONE can benefit from rape, or that rape can actually be justified is disgusting, The research was poorly done, I find evolutionary psychology fascinating, which is one of the main reasons I picked up this book.
The other is that I listened to its author on the “Huberman Lab” podcast and found his arguments really intriguing.


Im very glad I purchased this one, as I found it to be one of the more comprehensive, interesting, and logical treatises on evolutionbased mating preferences I've ever come across.
Its arguments all make a great deal of sense, even if you wouldnt necessarily draw such conclusions simply by observing animals in nature.


I think that reading this title gives men and women alike a solid playbook for understanding each other and what their evolutionary often subconscious desires are.
Of course, there are certainly lots of nuances in mating, but the author does a good job of pointing out such things and mentioning that no piece of advice is going to workof the time.


There are countless great examples and references cited in this one as well, My favorite example came from a particular species of fly the author explained how males of this species have a very “unique” way of protecting their mates from reproductive competition.
Youll know what Im talking about as soon as you read it, Its wild.

All in all, a really solid title and one that anyone interested in mating theory should scoop.


Brian Sachetta
Author of “Get Out of Your Head” Feminists hate this book, the politically correct call it chauvinistic both indicators of a book a thinking person should read.
And it is, a mustread by my standards,

Buss spells it out for all of us we are biological sex machines genes making us have preprogrammed us to prefer certain things in mates no matter people feel about these preferences.

I personally felt no vibe of bias in the book, Buss' arguments are straightforward, evolutionarily plausible and applicable to the vast majority of people in the world.

To those arguing that Buss' findings only relate to our evolutionary history, not the present nonsense.
Sexual preference is like the taste of sweetness, no amount of socialization and education will change the fact that men and women worldwide prefer some features over others regardless of how politicallycorrect they are.


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: Looking at the author's picture, pretty nice genetic package there, Sure I'd do him, provided he makes six figures and is five years older than me, Also, since neither of us would be interested in marriage, I'd require a hefty mistress fee via lots of expensive presents.
/sarcasm

I'm not sure how much, if anything, I should take away from this book.
Certainly interesting reading. The entire book can be summarized: Men and Women

make use of sexual strategies and these strategies can be more typical of one or the other gender.


This book offers plenty to chew on but feels more like Freud than science, This book was amazing. Buss is a great writer, he is very eloquent and yet simple, People with no knowledge of the field could easily read and enjoy this book, He is clearly very passionate about his subject, the book is very indepth, He is aware of the vast implications of his research but remains positive and thoughtful about human behavior and our evoled psychological mechanisms.
Knowledge is power, the truths revealed in this book may indeed be disturbing to some, enlightening to others, but I think it's best to arm yourself with knowledge.
If we all want love, why is there so much conflict in our most cherished relationships To answer this question, says noted psychologist David Buss, we must look into our evolutionary past.
Based on the most massive study of human mating ever undertaken, encompassing more than,people of all ages from thirtyseven cultures worldwide, The Evolution of Desire is the first book to present a unified theory of human mating behavior.


Now in an updated edition with two new chapters by the author, The Evolution of Desire presents the latest research in the field, including starting new discoveries about the evolutionary advantages of infidelity, orgasm, and physical attractiveness.
The English review is placed beneath Russian one

Начиная читать эту книгу, я сомневался, что закончу её или что дойду хотя бы до половины, т, к. эволюционная психология, даже связанная с такой жаркой интересной темой, всё же не очень увлекает меня. Все предыдущие книги, которые связаны с биологией или точнее книги по психологии, которые связаны с биологией, меня редко когда удивляли или захватывали полностью. Мне всегда видится, что авторы в этих книгах пишут так, что они знают ответы на все вопросы и что все остальные ответвления психологии, психоанализ, социальная психология и пр. ломаного гроша не стоят, что они вообще не нужны и что биология всё расставит по своим местам в психологии. Однако к моему удивлению, я не только не обнаружил такой стиль в данной книге, но наоборот она мне показалось крайне интересной даже для тех, кто не является поклонником эволюционной психологии. Некоторые обязательно найдут книгу чрезмерно сухой. Да, это отнюдь не развлекательный научпоп в стиле Магия утра или Мужчины с Марса, Женщины с Венеры. Это чистая академическая психология типа Эффект Люцифера Филипа Зимбардо или книг Роберта Сапольски. Поэтому я книгу рекомендовал бы только тем, кто готов к серьёзной литературе по психологии. В качестве утешения, если можно использовать подобное слово, я бы добавил, что книга, тем не менее, очень интересная, читается всё же относительно легко и содержит понастоящему уйму научного материала, центром которого являются многочисленные опросы людей разных возрастов из разных стран мира. Автор не соврал, книга предлагает уникальный анализ человеческой сексуальности или точнее, отношения между мужчиной и женщиной с точки зрения эволюционной психологии на основе проведённого глобального опроса множества людей из совершенно разных стран мира.
Итак, автор с помощью анализа проведённых исследований опросов рассматривает практически все важные вопросы, связанные с сексуальными отношениями между мужчиной и женщиной. В центр этого обсуждения мы можем положить или расположить такое распространённое мнение как: для мужчины в женщине важна, прежде всего, внешняя привлекательность, т. к. она говорит о способности женщины дать здоровое потомство, а для женщины в мужчине важно, прежде всего, его способность обеспечить и детей и жену необходимыми благоприятными условиями жизни. Это известнейшее определение старо как мир и многие даже могу после этого вообще передумать читать эту книгу. Собственно, это одна из причин, почему я так неохотно взялся за книгу. Однако автор так виртуозно смог рассмотреть этот вопрос, так преподнести тему, а главное раскрыть её настолько широко и настолько интересно, что я даже и не заметил, как прочитал половину. Да, многое мы уже знаем, но мы определённо не знаем в таких деталях и почему это, всем известное видение, действительно работает. К примеру, автор чрезвычайно интересно пишет о том, почему для женщин так важно финансовое благополучие мужчин, которое они оценивают в опросах выше всех остальных мужчины, соответственно, также высоко оценивают внешнюю привлекательность, почему для женщин важен интеллект мужчины хорошее образование, почему они не терпят ленивых и почему им важно наличие у мужчины уверенности в своих силах, а точнее активность, чтобы это был человек действия. Всё вышеперечисленное как бы сигналит женщине, этот мужчина сможет обеспечить семью или он сможет принести добычу домой, а не будет затоптан либо самой добычей, либо конкурентами. И это объясняет, почему в книгах типа Пятьдесят оттенков серого мужчина всегда активный или человек действия dominant, финансово обеспеченный миллионер, со спортивной фигурой и становится однолюбом, когда встречает главную героиню. Все ингредиенты, что так нравятся многим женщинам пусть даже не осознанно, присутствуют в книге. И именно поэтому женщины в большинстве случаев оставляют за бортом тех мужчин, кто с финансовой точки зрения не состоятелен. Или можно даже сказать так: женщины не обращают внимания на мужчинофициантов и на пр. низкосоциальные профессии именно потому, что такой мужчина откровенно бесперспективен с точки зрения создания семьи вот она, эволюция в действии. Как пишет автор, даже в том случаи, если женщина изначально обеспечена благодаря своему собственному высокому статусу. И кстати, по словам автора, маскулинность, ещё один фактор который важен для женщин с точки зрения мужской привлекательности. Конечно, мы не должны понимать всё это буквально, т. к. люди, довольно сложные создания, да и плюс, как писал Фрейд, они зачастую сами не осознают те подсознательные силы, что руководят их действиями. Поэтому это лишь дополнительные балы, но отнюдь не готовый рецепт, действующий согарантией.
Что касается мужчин, то мне очень понравилось замечание, что некрасивые женщины почему их не выбирают мужчины снижают социальный статус мужчины в понятии мужчины и это ещё одна важная причина, почему мужчины не спешат их выбирать если только не ситуация на безрыбье и рак щука.
Вообще в книге много самого разнообразного материала включая такие темы с точки зрения эволюционной психологии как: изнасилование и harassment, измена, ревность, способы привлечения приглянувшегося партнёра и т. д.

When I started reading this book, I doubted that I would finish it or that I would reach at least a half of it, because evolutionary psychology, even related to such a hot interesting topic, still does not really fascinate me.
All previous books that are related to biology, or more precisely books on psychology that are related to biology, I have rarely been surprised or captured by them completely.
It always seems to me that the authors in these books write in such a way that they know the answers to all the questions and that all the other branches of psychology psychoanalysis, social psychology, etc.
are not worth a broken penny, that they are not needed at all and that biology will arrange everything in its place in psychology.
However, to my surprise, not only have I not found such a style in this book, but on the contrary, it seemed to me extremely interesting even for those who are not fans of evolutionary psychology.
Some people will find the book dry, Yes, it's not an entertaining science pop in the style of "The Miracle Morning" by Hal Elrod or "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" by John Gray.
This is pure academic psychology like "The Lucifer Effect" by Philip G, Zimbardo or Robert M. Sapolsky's books. Therefore, I would recommend the book only to those who are ready for serious literature on psychology.
As a consolation, if I could use such a word, I would add that the book, however, is very interesting, it is still relatively easy to read and contains a lot of scientific material, the center of which is numerous surveys of people of different ages from around the world.
The author did not lie, the book offers a unique analysis of human sexuality or, more precisely, the relationship between a man and a woman in terms of evolutionary psychology based on a global survey of many people from all over the world.

Thus, the author considers almost all important issues related to sexual relations between a man and a woman with the help of the analysis of the conducted researches polls.
In the center of this discussion we can put or place such a common opinion as: "For a man in a woman it is important, first of all, her external attractiveness, as it shows the ability of a woman to give healthy offspring, and for a woman in a man it is important, first of all, his ability to provide both children and his wife with the necessary favorable living conditions".
This is the most famous definition of the old world and many of us can even change our minds about reading this book.
Actually, this is one of the reasons why I was so reluctant to take up the book.
However, the author was so masterly able to consider this issue, so to present the topic, and most importantly, to reveal it so widely and so interestingly that I did not even notice how to read half of it.
Yes, we already know a lot about it, but we definitely don't know in such details and why it really works.
For example, the author writes very interestingly about why the financial wellbeing of men is so important for women, which they evaluate in surveys above all others men, accordingly, also highly appreciate the external attractiveness of women.
Why do men's mental abilities good education matter to women Why they do not tolerate lazy men and why it is important for women that men have confidence in themselves, or rather that they are "men of action".
All of the above signals to the woman that "this man will be able to provide for the family" or "he will be able to bring the prey home, and will not be trampled either by the prey itself or by competitors".
This explains why in books like Fifty Shades of Grey, a man is always active or a man of action a dominant, financially secure a millionaire, with a sports body.
All the ingredients that many women like so much even if not consciously, are present in the book.
And that's why women in most cases leave overboard those men who are not financially wealthy, Or we can even say this: women do not pay attention to male waiters and other lowsociety professions, precisely because such a man is frankly unpromising from the point of view of creating a family here it is the evolution in action.
As the author writes, even if the woman is already financially secured and already has a high social status.
And by the way, according to the author, masculinity is another factor that is important for women in terms of male attractiveness.
Of course, we should not understand all this literally, because people are quite complex creatures, and, as Freud wrote, they often do not realize the subconscious forces that lead their actions.
Therefore, these are only additional points, but not a readymade recipe, valid with aguarantee,
As for men, I liked the remark that ugly women why men don't choose them reduce the social status of men in the concept of men and this is another important reason why men don't rush to choose them unless the situation is "Better a small fish than an empty dish".

In general, the book contains a lot of various materials, including such topics from the point of view of evolutionary psychology as: rape and harassment, infidelity, jealousy, ways of attracting the desired partner, etc.
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