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of the best books I have read on recovering from compulsive eating, Solid yet challenging advice and insight, The perfect follow up to anyone who started recovery and/or walked through rehab with her first book Life Without Ed, Jenni Schaefer and Ed eating disorder are no longer on speaking terms, not even in her most difficult moments, In her bestseller,"Life Without Ed", Jenni learned to treat her eating disorder as a relationship, not a conditionenabling her to break up with Ed once and for all.


In "Goodbye Ed, Hello Me" Jenni shows you that being fully recovered is not just about breaking free from destructive behaviors with food and having a healthy relationship with your body it also means finding joy and peace in your life.


Combining Jennis signature personal advice and unfailing encouragement along with valuable exercises you can do as you read, "Goodbye Ed, Hello Me" will give you the prescriptive tools to take the final steps in divorcing your Ed completely.


Foreword by Carolyn Costin, LMFT, M, A. , M. Ed. “I dont still have an eating disorder, and I am not always going to be in recovery, ” Another amazing eating disorder recovery book from Jenni Scaefer, Parts of this were wonderful and helpful especially the perfectionist chapter, But a lot of it felt too forced in a conversational/cheesy way, Good. Life without Ed is more applicable to me right now, but this one had some really useful information as well, Schaefer's writing was also much improved, I appreciated her honesty and sense of humor, I'd recommend it to anyone recovering/recovered from an eating disorder, as well as to anyone looking to help someone in recovery, I have been reading this book off and on, This year I was going to finish it! I did! Awesome book for ones that are going through the battle of the Eating disorder, With a Dr. Phil quote on the cover and an Obama quote in Carolyn Costin's forward, this didn't have an auspicious beginning, Nevertheless, I still found a lot of good stuff in thiseven if I don't agree with the author on everything, Many parts of it were just what I needed to hear, and I liked Jenni's practical, honest, and hopeful voice,

It sometimes came across to me that there were many, many people supporting and helping her to recover, She frequently references her treatment team, That is great, but I don't have all that I just have a counselor and I wonder if all that is necessary to recover,

Some of the details she shares regarding accepting her body, releasing perfectionism, etc, were a little scaring and overwhelming, maybe because I'm still so firmly entrenched in that type of thinking, I don't know if this discomfort is necessarily a bad thing, but it is a little frightening to face all that, Sometimes my head hurt from trying to process it all,

I'm not crazy about the whole "marrying yourself" theme, That's just weird. Along another line, I have absolutely no idea why she would pick Scarlett O'Hara as a role model, Does she know the story Scarlett is a train wreck!

I like that Jenni talks about her relationship with God being key to her recovery,

It's very spiritualitylite and perhaps a little relativistic at times, but I just like the fact that she even mentions God, I think He is often really overlooked in recovery programs,

There were a lot of very helpful sections, but for some reason the ones about perfectionism stuck out to me especially, Perhaps it's because it's not something I've read much about,

So, ultimately, I do recommend this book, Not because it's flawless, but because it has a lot of great stuff to say and it's another wonderful and inspiring tool in the recovery arsenal, I could really relate to so many things that Jenni shared, and I gained a lot of great new insight,
I am the very first copy to get this book and get it signed by Jenni Schaefer! I am almost done, IT IS SO AMAZINGLY GOOD, Schaefer's follow up book to "Life Without Ed" is filled with nuggets of wisdom, motivation, and practical action steps for those struggling to move from their life with an eating disorder and embrace a new/healthier identity.
I highly recommend it to anyone with an eating disorder, as well as anyone who has a family member or friend with an eating disorder, It's also a great resource for clinicians, A quick read and easy one to pick up and set down, as the chapters are only a couple of pages, I learned what life after ED looks like, This is a good book for me, It is a compilation of the author's experiences, suggestions, descriptions, comparisons of life with and without ED, exercises for people like her or people not like her but interested, like me.
This is not a scientific i, e. , bird's eye view study of ED but a valuable in the trenches explication, Jenni as an author writes clearly and with candor, Maybe her book deservesorstars, really, since it was monumental for her, I expect, to write this, I could not write it but I found myself easily understanding her descriptions,

Negative body image seems to be one of Eds lastditch efforts to keep us under his control, If he can keep us hating our bodies even long after our eating disorder behaviors subside, then he still holds the power to work himself back into our lives.

I refuse to give Ed any power in my life today, Looking back, I can see how he used that kind of power to stay in my life for far too long, I can also see that defining myself in terms of my illness was a selffulfilling prophecy, As long as I believed Ed was waiting around every corner to get me, guess what He was waiting around every corner to get me,

An eating disorder is an illness that tells us we dont have the illness, and that aspect of it denial keeps many of us alone.
If food and weight make your life unmanageable, if you are just functioning and not truly living, then you deserve help,

I thought that therapy might work for others, but it wouldnt work for me because I was different, I was afraid of possibly failing at something that worked for others, It was easier to be different than to fail,

They wanted me to separate from Ed and understand that he was the one saying, “You are hopeless, You will never recover. ” Ed is a thief, and he likes to steal the I pronoun, He changes “You are hopeless” and “You will never recover” to “I am hopeless, I will never recover. ”
As long as he could get me to change you to Iand get me to believe that those thoughts were coming from me and not him then he could win.
Eds existence relies heavily on the fact that you forget to separate from him and forget everything else you learn in recovery as well, One of his greatest tactics is amnesia,

As soon as I recognized that Ed existed separate from me, my job was to respond to what he said, If he said to binge, I had to decide whether or not I was going to binge, Maybe I couldnt control what he said or did, but I could sure take responsibility for my own actions, Ed didnt have to changeI did,

People might tell you “If you dont do it for yourself, you wont get better, ” I disagree. So does my good friend and colleague, Michael E, Berrett, Ph. D. , coauthor of Spiritual Approaches in the Treatment of Women with Eating Disorders, He says, “Embrace not just any reason to recover, but every reason, Over time, you will eventually understand and embrace one of the best reasons to recoverthat you are worth it, ”

What I have discovered is that we can wonder all we want as long as we are still taking steps along recovery road, We can walk and wonder at the same time, In fact, I wondered all these things all the way to that place I call recovered, For me, recovery was a big leap of faith,

Yes, relapse is normal, but it doesnt always have to be, Do your best to learn something from each and every fall, Try not to fall in the same way twice, and ultimately you will fall less and less,
Then relapse wont be normal for you anymore, Recovery will be normal.

Instead of putting all your focus on getting rid of Ed, start thinking about getting to know yourself, Thats what recovery is all about anyway,

Sometimes feeling bad in recovery means that youre actually doing well,

In fact, my entire family was in a better position to truly support me after they stopped trying so hard to understand everything, Likewise, I was in a better position to receive their support when I quit trying to explain it all,

As long as I was getting professional help for my disorder, I told my family they didnt have to ask me about food, I just wanted them to talk to me about life,

For a long time, I tried to improve my body image before I would eat right and maintain a healthy weight, The hard truth is that you have to eat right and maintain a healthy weight before your body image can truly improve, This means there is a period when you are in your healthy body and feel horrible, But if you just stick with itwithout manipulating your food or weight the horrible feeling subsides, and you actually begin to love your new body, If you dont stick with it, Ed will inevitably take control and drag you down again, I discovered that I couldnt do a lot to speed up positive body image, but I could sure do a lot to slow it down,

Without perfectionism as my motivator, I thought I would just be lying around all day doing nothing, Yet there I was at rock bottom with my perfectionism, and what was I doing Lying around all day doing nothing, Perfectionism had strangely created the same situation I had been trying to avoid,

Staying in my eating disorder kept me a kid, It kept me dependent on others financially and emotionally, It gave me excuses for why I didnt have a “real” job and why I couldnt pursue this or that, I once said, “I cant pursue music right now, because Im too sick, ” At certain points along the way, I really was too sick to pursue music, What I needed to do during those times was focus on recovery and become willing to do whatever it took to get better,
I didnt do this for a long time, because part of me liked having the eating disorder as an excuse, As long as I had Ed, I was a person who had never pursued music instead of one who had pursued music and failed,

Dont let the past dictate your present,
Maybe you have been in treatment for your eating disorder many times, Maybe you have relapsed over and over, Or maybe you have a marginal recovery and dont think you will ever be really free, It doesnt matter that these things were true for you two years ago, two weeks ago, or two days ago even two hours ago, That was then. This is now.
Maybe you werent strong enough then, Maybe you are now.
What was once impossible might very well be possible today,

If we keep standing, it doesnt matter how many times Ed or life knocks us down, and it doesnt matter how far we fall each time.
All that matters is that we keep getting up, Setbacks only become permanent failures when we quit trying, When we feel like giving up, like we are beyond help, we must remember that we are never beyond hope, Holding on to hope has always motivated me to keep trying,

This was good, Not great. Those who refer to their eating disorder as Ed get under my skin, but that's a personal issue, There is some practical insight in here but my favorite read on the subject is still theKeys by Carolyn Costin, Quite conversational a bajillion short chapters without being light on content, Made me realize that there are still aspects of the ED/diet mentality in my brain/life that I hadn't recognized as such and was still tolerating, That's not discouraging, though what's discouraging is thinking that a sometimesmediocre recovery is as good as it gets, A followup to Schaefer's first book, "Life Without Ed", Very optimistic book about recovery from eating disorders by one who has been there, Excellent resource for anyone who has an eating disorder or just wants to support someone who does, What a fabulous book. It not only motivated me into recovery thinking, but gave me journal entries to consider journaling about, I can't say enough about Jenni because I have read her first book four times and this is my second time to read this book, I have also heard her speak and is such a fabulous, dedicated person in the education of eating disorders Some parts of these book were very helpful and provided some interesting insights and ideas.
However, many other parts were rather annoying and cheesy, However, I do recommend this book to those struggling with an eating disorder as well as friends and family members, Note for all those suffering from an eating disorder I know I had to stop reading this while in recovery, Sometimes there's just too much inundation with eating disorder patterns and information, It's always good to take a step back and let yourself be for a bit, .