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I am codependent, this book doesn't deal with my type, I am not codependent on drink and drugs and nor am I codependent on caring for someone who is on drink and drugs.
I had hoped that this would deal more with people who were codependent due to extreme abuse and control they've suffered in their childhood and adult life, like me.
When I left a controlling mother I went into a relationship where I was a victim of more control and domestic violence, this has left me very much unable to go out on my own from the age ofas a consequence, unfortunately this book doesn't deal with that type.
I had hoped that it would, you can't even use the techniques given to assist someone on my spectrum, it's not a one treatment fix all thing as even my own therapist has told me.
This is the first piece of writing Ive ever read on the topic of codependency, and I think it was a really great place to start.
I didnt realize how thorough Dummies books are, but this really laid it all out there, You can expect definitions and honing in on what codependency is, where it comes from, what it looks like in practice, and what the road of recovery entails.
After a runthrough I am now going back to work through some of the exercises and practices recommended, Overall really helpful. Okay, so I feel like sort of a weirdo putting this book on here, but hear me out, I've been really interested in positive selfimprovement this year both physically and emotionally/mentally, I saw a really good lecture by the author of this book, so I decided to check out her work, The information in this book could be helpful to almost anyone, Even if you aren't "codependent" per se, it has a lot of useful advice about figuring out what you want out of life, how to be decisive, how to develop selfesteem, and ways to navigate relationships.
It's not silly and hokey like a lot of books about similar topics tend to be, and it provides lots of good advice and explanations.
For example, if you are the type of person who has a hard time saying "no" and who isn't sometimes, this book helps to explain underlying reasons for that pattern of interaction, and advice on how to change it.
.out of“Finding your voice”, July,By Amaroo Jirra this side of oblivion

I am thrilled to have this book ! Its a terrific outline of everything included in codependency issues and much more.
There is so much to learn and so much to think about after reading each chapter, In many instances youll stop to ponder and say to yourself, “I do that, ” And then youll put the tools and tips in motion and learn to change the behavior, Its a wonderful, insightful look into how codependency has influenced your own life and the life of others, I cant recommend this book more highly, its a must have for every library and anyone who has suffered from Narcissistic, Histrionic or Borderline Personality disordered friends or family who have made your life a living hell.
The misery ends here.

Amazon gives us the opportunity to Look inside this book, which is something everyone should do if theyve stumbled across this product page.
The Table of Contents will give you an idea of what issues are discussed in the book so you can make a informed decision.
This is an extremely valuable tool in itself,

The only down side is that the editing could have been better as the book has many grammatical errors and misspelled words.
This is just an oversight, but this should have been more closely examined,

.out ofA Great Introduction to and Analysis of Codependency, July,By Daniel Berkowitz

The Dummies series universally is considered a standout in the overcrowded selfhelp catalogue, and for good reason: It works.
Each book is written by an expert and constructed in a practical, wellconceived way, typically without exception, This certainly is true of Darlene Lancer, MFT and Codependency for Dummies,

Lancer is an advanced degreeholding, licensed marriage and family therapist withyears experience, She writes from a place of authority and knowledge, confident in her abilities to educate people in the realities of this controversial subject.


Codependency is divided intochapters, In the first, Lancer gives an overview of her subject, which many consider a disease, as well as some background information and details on why there are so many competing schools of thought.


She then goes on in subsequent chapters to describe the characteristics of a codependent, how to know if you are one, how to learn new ways to diminish your need to be one, and ultimately how to understand, value and empower yourself so as to not be one.


The most important part of the book is its first section, in which Lancer lays the groundwork for selfimprovement, By using plain and engaging language to explain this unwanted behavior, Lancer makes her subject understandable, relatable and sympathetic, In Chapter, she writes: “Clinicians like labels in order to talk about and study an illness, It helps them identify symptoms, utilize tested treatments, and understand the origin of a disorder I dont like labels because they ignore each persons uniqueness and make people feel badly about themselves.
” She does go on to address the undeniable benefits of labels, as well,

While to some this may sound shortsighted and even overly superficial, I do not think this to be the case, Lancer not only understands her subject on an academic level, but she truly comprehends the “human” aspect of the disorder, Because of this, she is able to write from a place of warmth and sincerity often missing from selfhelp books,

Often,selfhelp books are filled with recycled ideas of authors previous books, as well as laden with platitudes and, in some cases, subtle condescension.
Yet nothing of this sense is in Codependency, Instead, Lancer, not the fulltime book producer that many are, writes in a highly personal way that makes her words stick with you.


Yes, it is true that Lancer is writing about a particular subject, making it harder to be trivial, But she still has to at least adequately discuss her subject with some level of novelty she must still bring something to the table, so to speak.
And she does.

I like the Dummies series for its comprehensiveness, The books are billed as onestop guides to understanding and conquering a particular subject, In this case, Lancer not only provides information about codependency and ways to discover if you do in fact fit the mold, but she also provides tips, strategies and ways to move forwardways to alleviate your codependency and live a better, healthier life.


Codependency is filled with this type of help, In Chapter, for example, Lancer spells out the benefits of meditation, “timeouts,” journaling, visualizing and what she calls “doing the opposite, ” She writes:

“Try new behavior, If you often argue, be silent instead, If youre usually silent, speak up, If youre always serious, tell a joke, It may surprise people close to you and even yourself Doing the opposite can also mean using a different part of your brain.
Instead of obsessing, take a positive action toward solving the solution, which may be as simple as getting more information, When youre obsessing about a person, shift to your emotions to release pentup feelings If you feel compelled to act, wait, Ask yourself what would be the consequence of waiting another day, ”

This idea of trying to restructure your behavior is one of the key components to combating any disorder, especially codependency, The first part is understanding it, With Codependency for Dummies, you will surely be able to do both,

.out ofExercise Your Codependency Muscle, July,By Sherry Gaba

Reading Darlenes book reminded me that codependency is a disease and can be just as detrimental to our sense of wholeness and serenity.
She gets it! I love her simple message become yourself, and this book breaks down that overwhelming and confusing task into simple steps of getting to know yourself, honoring who you are, and expressing and loving yourself in words and actions.
In my own work as an addiction therapist, I emphasize the importance of authenticity, selfacceptance, and living in accordance with your values, In developing selflove, Darlene makes a great suggestion, “Interrupt your routine and listen with your heart, mind, and body, Ask yourself several times a day, . . “What is the most loving choice I can make right now”

The selfdiscovery exercises to weed out the “The Tyrannical Trio” the Critic, Pusher, and Perfectionist are powerful.
The reader is helped to uncover selfsabotaging thoughts and beliefs that thwart goals and lead to low selfesteem, painful emotions, and problems in every area.
The book squarely addresses the difficulty codependents have in identifying feelings and needs and explains how needs trigger feelings that lead to thoughts, actions, and consequences.
Its full of wisdom, useful tips, and tools for healing,

I was once again enlightened that I must exercise my codependency muscle on a daily basis, especially as someone who has experienced the pain of being on the other side of alcoholism and drug addiction.
I recommend Codependency for Dummies to anyone who is or thinks he or she may be codependent, including recovering addicts who want to heal their underlying codependency.
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Sherry Gaba, LCSW and Life Coach, author of “The Law of Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery and the Psychotherapist on VHs Celebrity Rehab”.


.out ofBest book on codependency!! July,By Roxanne former chemo patient

This is the very best book I have ever read on codependency.
I GET it! I really did not get it until I read this book, The author outlines in simple, lay terms with real life examples how people develop codependency, what codependency looks like, how it progresses until a person hits bottom sometimes that means illness cancer in my case, and how people work their way out of it.
I have never read anything better, Im recommending it to everyone, And I will keep a copy for myself always, so that I can refer to it along the way on my journey of recovery.
I now recognize “red flag” situations, understand how codependency works and what is needed to move toward recovery, Im doing just that working toward recovery, feeling empowered and hopeful thanks to this amazing book and author!

,out of Codependency for Dummies, May,By Flora Golden, Therapist

Darlene Lancer has written the definitive book on codependency.
Everything anyone ever wanted to know about this subject matter is between its covers, Since

its beginning, the codependency movement has grown in strength and relevance to modern life, That is why this book makes a profound contribution, In particular, it examines not only codependent characteristics, but unlike other books on the subject, combines both analysis of relationships and intrapsychic dynamics.
This book is also unique in that Lancer also distinguishes codependent traits and relationships from healthy “pleasing,” caretaking, and functional relationships,

In this book, Ms Lancer describes the childhood origins of codependency, its particular symptoms and what can be done to heal it.
Almost everyone has some features of this condition, and whether or not you identify as codependent, there are loads of selfimprovement exercises and tips.
She also gives practical advice and to where to go to seek help, Everyone, therapists, patients, or anyone else who is looking for knowledge in this field, should own a copy,

.out ofCodependents guide to dealing with life, June,By jormi

This is one of the most profound books I have found in dealing with codependency.
Darlene uses so many great life experiences to teach us, If you are an individual who is recovering from codependency or a victim of behavior of a codependent you seriously need to buy this book.
There is great insight on how to deal with these issues, Darlene opens up many doors that to me were sealed shut, I have learned to address so many things that I was not even aware of that constituted behavior of codependency, As a codependent whom is still in the recovery process I urge you to buy this book, It is probably the best investment in your future out there, Thank You Darlene for your hard work and effort and sharing your life experiences to help benefit all of those who still suffer with codependency.


.out ofExcellence for Breaking the Cycle of Codependency, July,By A Little Wiser

A friend of mine recommended this Codependency book by Darlene Lancer, and I am glad I purchased it.
I have been consultant in the area of grief and loss foryears and read everything pertinent on how to best assist clients to a positive outcome.
I found this to be an excellent book, The authors own personal experience brings a rich understanding and compassionate style to the material, I recommend it not only for the counselor, but also to clients who are willing to accept their situation and learn the steps to emotional health.

As I worked through the book I found chaptersin “Part II: Breaking the Cycle of Codependency: Beginning Recovery” pertinent to my work:
Chapter: Crossing DeNile to Recover
Chapter: The Process of Recovery
Chapter: How Did You Become Codependent
Chapter: Taking Stock of Who You Are
Chapter: Non attachment and Acceptance
Chapter: Learning to Value Yourself
For me, there were many steps that she lists I already follow to assist those who are troubled, stuck and in denial of a particular situation.
Making reference to this book, particularly Chaptersand, will clearly facilitate my sessions,
I was amazed at the thoroughness of this book and will recommend this book often to others who consult clientele on similar topics.

Rev. Nancy Matz

.out ofSuch a helpful book!, June,By K, Dianne Schwartz “Author: Dianne Schwartz”

I love the concept, which I feel will reach more people in need of Ms, Lancers guidance. She knows what shes talking or writing about and I appreciated her understanding and knowledge on the topic,

This book will help those involved in a codependent relationship and could stop someone from engaging in one, There are so many of us who have experienced these involvements some more than once so to have a therapist who helps us see the light and truth of our situation is very important.


I believe this book would be great for teenagers, I wish I had something like this to read when I was younger!

,out ofEverybody I know can benefit from Codependency for Dummies,May,By MaryLou Cheatham “The Collard Patch” Louisiana

I am surprised to be the first person reviewing this book.
It is fascinating, the kind of book that is difficult to close once it is opened, I enjoyed taking the two tests in Chapter, but I was disappointed that no criteria accompanied the second test in order for the reader/testtaker to determine whether he was codependent.


According to the standards in Codependency for Dummies, most of the people I know are codependent to one extent or another,and most of us need to work on our codependency.
The rest of us have close acquaintances who need help in this area,

The concluding paragraph in the book is “Dont Isolate” what useful advice! Yet we live in an isolated world, Up and down the street are single people some retired or working at home alone some without any companionship, not even a dog.
Isolation is a way of life, Much of the time in our education system and in work environments we are in a society of isolation,

I agree with much of what Darlene Lancer, licensed marriage and family therapist, has to say, We really need to work on our codependence and move out of the mire of low selfesteem, I do not, however, agree with her philosophy about spirituality, She states, “Whether or not you believe in God, a spiritual practice is an excellent means of creating a deeper relationship with our Self.
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