Seize Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success At Work And In Life One Conversation At A Time Developed By Susan Scott Digital Copy

all the professional books I've read in my life, this is the one I would list at the very top, as the one I should have readyears ago as I was just launching a career in educational leadership.
No, let me take that back, This is the book I should have readyears ago when I became a mother, Hmmmmm . In fact, this is the book I should have readyears ago as I was launching my first marriage.
Waitlet me try one more time: This is the book I should have readyears ago as I began to take responsibilities for relationships.
I would have been eight years old, Does that serve as a sufficient recommendation God, Im glad thats over, This books primary audience feels like men who yell at their wives and act like aholes to their coworkers and then wonder why they dont feel particularly close to their children.


It getsbecause theres some good stuff in here, but really you should just go to therapy.
Wrapping up Empathy in a business man package feels weird, The phrase “emotional capital” makes me want to barf,

This may be a good first step if youve never done any selfimprovement, but if Ive spent any time on your spiritual or emotional growth, this feels like a step back.


Also, not sure why we needed a detour into “Women are to blame for sexism” at the end Just seems unrelated, on my opinion.


Not great advice to read if youre neurodivergent or want to work with neurodivergent people successfully!

If you can read quickly while taking some things with a grain of salt, you might learn something.
But its probably more productive to read about actual emotional growth, The ideas and action items provided in this book were thoughtprovoking and helpful however, I felt most of the examples were tailored to readers in management roles at companies.
I just couldn't relate to those ideas hence theinstead ofstar rating,

The stories and information I could relate to were fantastic, if shocking, It was hard to sit and honestly think about how I have conversations with people, I realized a lot of the time I am practicing bad conversation tactics and enter with my own agenda which overpowers the actual conversation.
While I probably won't see an instant improvement, I am

definitely going to work on being more present, less judgemental and more involved in my conversations.
Hopefully I will see a difference in my communication style, I discovered this book while browsing through the shelves at the Chapters bookstore atand Kennedy in Toronto.
As I flipped through the book I came across this snippet that mentioned a newly married couple.
The first weekend the wife wanted to talk about their relationship, the husband relented, The next weekend once again the wife wanted to sit and talk about their relationship, the following weekend it was the same thing.
Now the man began to wonder 'Hey this is not what I want, ' 'What's going on'
However on much thinking he realises 'The conversation is the relationship, The moment you stop have the conversation, the relationship comes to an end',
I am paraphrasing, but when I read this I went and bought the book, I have read it many times and find it an extremely useful resource as I have dealt with many difficult conversations.
A worthwhile readif a bit more geared toward the professional world than I would have preferred,

Lots of examples, outlines, and exercises to help you start thinking more strategically about how you convey and convince people of your points.
Although, this is less about debate skills and more about getting through to people in effective waysrather than politely skirting AROUND major issues.
It's about improving and enriching relationships,

This book is encouraging a personal perspective shift, One of the primary purposes expressed is that readers learn to "interrogate reality" in all conversations, What are you afraid to discuss with your conversational partner
What might you be pretending not to know If your answer s 'I don't know', ask 'What would it be if I did know'

ChapterI found to be possibly the most impactful.
In it, we are challenged to consider our 'emotional wake', i. e. are you the sort to playfully urge others along, . . or the kind who dashes people against the docks

While it does have crossapplication to one's personal life, I would have liked more interpersonal explanations to those types of relationships specificallywhen familiarity is sometimes more hindrance than help in establishing new and healthier communication habits.

A couple areas in the book I plan on talking to my manager about to promote within our company:Decision Tree ands.

Likely to have a second read of this book and already recommending it to a few people I know.
An audiobook for driving to work, . This book teaches you how to have the conversations, both at work and at home, that move things forward, that are honest, and that come from a place of deep caring.
I came away with some good tips and a rejuvenated desire to be forthright in my discussions.
However, it's not just a howto manual: Scott offers a list of books she has enjoyed recently, a recipe for listening to yourself, a poem that inspires.


I have been processing this book in conversation with a couple of friends and my wife.
I think that the highest praise that I can give this book is that it provokes selfreflection and an honest assessment of the ways that I can improve as a leader.
It simultaneously honours and solidifies things I know about myself and my leadership while pushing me on to consider how I can grow and develop for the future.


Scott does a great job of cutting through the noise of fancy programs and the next hot thing that often takes hold of organizations and really centers her book on how our conversations with ourselves, our family, and our colleagues can create organizational change and freedom if we have the courage to delve into reality.


As a man of faith, I believe that there are many things that Scott talks about around fear, honesty, integrity, and leadership that reverberate in my heart and have sunk deep.
Even though I have 'finished' this book, I will continue to reflect, revisit, and remind myself of the truths inside.
My first step: writing mysecond stump speech for leadership in my next steps,

I highly recommend this book for anyone who is a leader or has found that their conversations and relationships could use a shot of adrenaline.
A soso business/personal relationship book that encourages you to be completely honest and ask probing questions to get to the real issue in your conversations with others.
A little touchy feely, easier said than done on the honesty part, anyway, but it did give me some good ideas for asking the right questions.


The author inserts too much of her life into the adviceit may be easy and affordable for her to take a retreat and really think about things, or wake up atto sip tea and meditate before her fireplace, but that's a bit excessive for the average working Joe.
And it's pretentious and offputting to hear a piece of advice is similar to one she was told by her martial arts sensei in Japan.
Really How nice for you, .