Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
This is a well written, compassionate but honest collection of interviews with dying patients and their families, the purpose of this study/book being to help both deal with the emotions and the many phases of death they will face.
Denial. Anger. Depression . It was a difficult read sometimes because I couldn't help but become attached to the patients and ache for what they were going through,
And as hard as it might be to believe, this book is also an excellent help when going through a relationship breakup, whether by choice or not, As my dear friend, Beverly, always told me, "You have to go through it to get through it, I miss you, Brat!
I highly recommend this book to anyone with elderly or ailing friends or family members, or to anyone who works in healthcare, It's written with respect and integrity, giving hope to the living and honoring the dying by helping assure them of a peaceful, dignified passing, كتاب مهم عن مراحل الحزن الخمسة والتي تدعى بنموذج كوبلر للفقد
وهي دراسة قامت بها هي وفريق بحثها عن الاشخاص المحتضرين أو الذين لا شفاء لهم تحاورهم بكل لطف حتى تمكنت بسببهم من استحداث هذه المراحل الخمس والتي من شأنها أن تعين أيضا من فقدوا أحباءهم في فهم شعور الفقد والأسى بعد رحيلهم
كتاب لا بد أن ينضم لمكتبة المنزل
ستفهم كثيرا عن حزنك حتى تتكامل معه
الترجمة مبهرة شكرا لكم دار صفحة سبعة لترجمة هذا الكتاب وأتمنى أن تترجموا بقية أعمال الكاتبة خاصة كتاب
On grief and grieving در قدح آب نورانی است آب دریا اما تار است
حقیقت کوچک را واژگانی است روشن
حقیقت بزرگ را اما سکوتی بزرگ است This book came at a time in my life when I had the real opportunity to talk with the sick and the dying in my posting in a pain and palliative care unit.
I was uncertain how to approach these patients and had no idea what to say, A kind friend lent me the book and I'm truly grateful,
The author speaks carefully and eloquently of the importance of listening to the patients and just giving them your time and not hurrying past them,
It also brought into focus my own mortality, I think of death in less frightening terms now and I think it has helped me become a better clinician more than some of the textbooks I've read,
I'm forever changed and eternally grateful, Do read this book because you're a human being and not because you're a doctor or a patient but because it is important to not fear death or the dying.
One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr, Elisabeth KüblerRoss's famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition, In this remarkable book, Dr, KüblerRoss first explored the nowfamous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives the reader a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient's family, bringing hope to all who are involved.
On Death and Dying is Elizabeth KublerRoss' discourse on the psychological stages of grief before and after death, Ross headed a study in thes where she and a team of students, doctors, and clergy interviewed patients who were suffering from various maladies with low to fair prognosis.
Some of these patients knew they were in the end stages of life, others did not, Some interviewed were family members of the patients, Ross covered the various stages of death and grief and the effects on patients, family, and attending medical staff, Some were able to handle news of their prognosis better than others, Some were reluctant to talk, but all opened up once the questions began and felt better to have their stories told, their fear vocalized, and their hearts opened, It became evident that all wanted and needed to talk, even if it was just to open themselves to the inevitable,
This is a classic book written in thes but many of the lessons still ring true today, Everyone handles death and grief a little different but most go through the basic stages of denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, Having recently lost my father and having lost my mother many years before, I realize that each died in much the same way and I now know that when it was time they were ready and were peaceful.
Puiki knyga apie visų mūsų laukiančią ir dažnai pamirštamą mirtį, This book has helped me better understand the feelings and emotions of the dying, Having lost my father to cancer not long ago, I have often found it difficult to cope and also developed a fear of death and illness, On Death and Dying might be one of those books that you might want to reread several times just to not be oblivious and forgetful of our inevitable fatedeath,
“Those who have the strength and the love to sit with a dying patient in the silence that goes beyond words will know that this moment is neither frightening nor painful, but a peaceful cessation of the functioning of the body.
Watching a peaceful death of a human being reminds us of a falling star one of a million lights in a vast sky that flares up for a brief moment”
On Death and Dying was one of the hardest books I have ever read.
The subject matter was, obviously, in part the reason for this, But there was more than just the topic that made this a difficult book, Elisabeth KüblerRoss wrote this book at the end of the sixties, almost some fifty years ago and there is much about the world that has changed, and some of what she describes can become difficult to apply to the world we know now.
Some level of personal experiences and beliefs that seemed to go against some aspects of the book and the people within its pages also made some aspects of the reading difficult.
Hospitals at least in the places that are part of the first world do not entirely resemble what KüblerRoss speaks of, They may not be perfect, may be over populated and overly busy, but some of the aspects of them has changed greatly, namely the way the family members of the patients are handled, and also the way that patients themselves are treated and what is available to them to help them not be so alone.
Of course, a lot of this changed thanks to the work of people like KüblerRoss and although the change made it hard to look at her work as being entirely usable in todays hospitals, it was in itself an enlightening way to see what exactly had changed throughout the years.
That aside, the fifty years since this book was written, show in a myriad of way throughout the pages, Someone I talked to this about joked that People dont die the same anymore, but I do think there is a difference in how a lot of the aspects of dying are approached in todays society, and not all of them are changes that occurred because of research done on this topic.
Some, simply happened because the world, our society, changed and evolved, One of the most often evoked worry of the dying in the book is that their spouse is having to take on responsibilities that were not theirs before: for men they worry about their wives looking after the financial and business side of things for women they worry of leaving their husbands to have to do everything around the household and look after the children.
Gender roles were still strongly
enforced and respected when KüblerRoss wrote this book, Nowadays they are slowlybut surelybeing forgotten, Women work, men raise children and for the most part no one bats an eyelid at it all, As such it could be quite difficult, and extremely jarring to fully understand the worry of these patients who felt like they were putting on their husbands too much or not feeling confident that their wives could handle the business they were leaving behind.
I think that, as someone who sees themselves as a feminist and stands against gendered stereotypes, these parts were particularly hard to get through, It made me angry because, surely, surely it shouldnt have been that way, I had to remind me when this book was written several times to get through these particularly bits, Similarly, the heavy emphasis on religion, Christianity I should say, was troubling to me, It was this tacit understanding that bar a few exceptions there is mention of a Jew at one point, this was the religion that everyone shared, that was accepted as the norm and, in a way expected.
Again, this is something that from my personal experience has changed and I cannot imagine that researchers would so easily involve members of the clergy in their research as KüblerRoss did back then.
Finally, the last outdated, rageinducing part of this book was the use of the word negro that felt so out of place and so wrong in the context that it made me extremely uncomfortable and judging how hard as a world we have to fight against racism if it might be a plan to edit such words out of texts that are supposed to be openminded.
Now all these things aside, On Death and Dying made for a truly interesting read, not least of all because it reveals the origins of what we take now for granted as the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
Nowadays these are applied to any grief, but when Elisabeth KüblerRoss developed and first talked about them, she was not talking about the grief of the living, of those that stay behind, she was talking of the grief of those that are dying and know that they are going to lose everyone and everything that they grew close and worked towards in their lifetime.
In this the book holds several revelations, First of all, when studying grief, I had always struggled with the stage of bargaining, and more importantly with when it came in the process, When looking at the grief I had experienced, bargaining suddenly didnt come after anger, or at least not in the way textbooks had presented it to me, And also it seemed to apply only to cases where the grieving person had known that the deceased had been dying and could not be applied so easily to sudden and violent deaths.
Seeing it as a part of the stages that the dying goes through made tremendously more sense,
But more than anything, On Death and Dying made me look at dying in a way that would have been impossible without experiencing it myself or working on the wards where these people spent their last hours, days, months or years.
I did not find it as scary as I thought, or as difficult, Instead it made me understand some things attached to my own grief attached to the friend I had to watch die recently, I understood more about what she went through and how she struggled and I truly wish that I had read this book earlier, I think, simply, KüblerRoss asks us to be more human, to look at people and see them as a person no matter their state or their pain, And it should sound an easy enough thing to do but we are famously bad as a race to see things from a point of view that is not our own and in that, her work is tremendously important.
I dont know if I could handle working with the dying as she did, for I found their stories in turn heart breaking and frustrating, but I have learnt a great deal for learning this book.
Not least of all that hope is something we should be able to carry with us until the very end, I had never considered that the dying too grieve, for it is something so little talked about, But now all I can think is, of course they do, It seems now like such obvious a thing that I can but be grateful as this book for how it opened my eyes, I cannot imagine anyone who works with terminally ill patients who should not read this book, They made find it difficult in places, as I did, for our world has changed, but the lesson that it carries, the wisdom within its pages has no need to change, because no amount of time passed will ever make it entirely irrelevant.
.
reread this book from time to time simply because it helps me put 'the circle of life' into perspective, and having recently had to put Honey, our,year old dog to sleep, I pulled this out again and read the parts that deal with the process and necessity and importance of allowing ourselves to grieve,
One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr, Elisabeth KüblerRoss's famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition, In this remarkable book, Dr, KüblerRoss first explored the nowfamous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives the reader a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient's family, bringing hope to all who are involved.On Death and Dying isn't the kind of book I normally read much less review but it's such an important, powerful work that I feel it needs to be shared in hopes that others will benefit from the insights and wisdom found within.
This is a well written, compassionate but honest collection of interviews with dying patients and their families, the purpose of this study/book being to help both deal with the emotions and the many phases of death they will face.
Denial. Anger. Depression . It was a difficult read sometimes because I couldn't help but become attached to the patients and ache for what they were going through,
And as hard as it might be to believe, this book is also an excellent help when going through a relationship breakup, whether by choice or not, As my dear friend, Beverly, always told me, "You have to go through it to get through it, I miss you, Brat!
I highly recommend this book to anyone with elderly or ailing friends or family members, or to anyone who works in healthcare, It's written with respect and integrity, giving hope to the living and honoring the dying by helping assure them of a peaceful, dignified passing, كتاب مهم عن مراحل الحزن الخمسة والتي تدعى بنموذج كوبلر للفقد
وهي دراسة قامت بها هي وفريق بحثها عن الاشخاص المحتضرين أو الذين لا شفاء لهم تحاورهم بكل لطف حتى تمكنت بسببهم من استحداث هذه المراحل الخمس والتي من شأنها أن تعين أيضا من فقدوا أحباءهم في فهم شعور الفقد والأسى بعد رحيلهم
كتاب لا بد أن ينضم لمكتبة المنزل
ستفهم كثيرا عن حزنك حتى تتكامل معه
الترجمة مبهرة شكرا لكم دار صفحة سبعة لترجمة هذا الكتاب وأتمنى أن تترجموا بقية أعمال الكاتبة خاصة كتاب
On grief and grieving در قدح آب نورانی است آب دریا اما تار است
حقیقت کوچک را واژگانی است روشن
حقیقت بزرگ را اما سکوتی بزرگ است This book came at a time in my life when I had the real opportunity to talk with the sick and the dying in my posting in a pain and palliative care unit.
I was uncertain how to approach these patients and had no idea what to say, A kind friend lent me the book and I'm truly grateful,
The author speaks carefully and eloquently of the importance of listening to the patients and just giving them your time and not hurrying past them,
It also brought into focus my own mortality, I think of death in less frightening terms now and I think it has helped me become a better clinician more than some of the textbooks I've read,
I'm forever changed and eternally grateful, Do read this book because you're a human being and not because you're a doctor or a patient but because it is important to not fear death or the dying.
One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr, Elisabeth KüblerRoss's famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition, In this remarkable book, Dr, KüblerRoss first explored the nowfamous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives the reader a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient's family, bringing hope to all who are involved.
On Death and Dying is Elizabeth KublerRoss' discourse on the psychological stages of grief before and after death, Ross headed a study in thes where she and a team of students, doctors, and clergy interviewed patients who were suffering from various maladies with low to fair prognosis.
Some of these patients knew they were in the end stages of life, others did not, Some interviewed were family members of the patients, Ross covered the various stages of death and grief and the effects on patients, family, and attending medical staff, Some were able to handle news of their prognosis better than others, Some were reluctant to talk, but all opened up once the questions began and felt better to have their stories told, their fear vocalized, and their hearts opened, It became evident that all wanted and needed to talk, even if it was just to open themselves to the inevitable,
This is a classic book written in thes but many of the lessons still ring true today, Everyone handles death and grief a little different but most go through the basic stages of denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, Having recently lost my father and having lost my mother many years before, I realize that each died in much the same way and I now know that when it was time they were ready and were peaceful.
Puiki knyga apie visų mūsų laukiančią ir dažnai pamirštamą mirtį, This book has helped me better understand the feelings and emotions of the dying, Having lost my father to cancer not long ago, I have often found it difficult to cope and also developed a fear of death and illness, On Death and Dying might be one of those books that you might want to reread several times just to not be oblivious and forgetful of our inevitable fatedeath,
“Those who have the strength and the love to sit with a dying patient in the silence that goes beyond words will know that this moment is neither frightening nor painful, but a peaceful cessation of the functioning of the body.
Watching a peaceful death of a human being reminds us of a falling star one of a million lights in a vast sky that flares up for a brief moment”
On Death and Dying was one of the hardest books I have ever read.
The subject matter was, obviously, in part the reason for this, But there was more than just the topic that made this a difficult book, Elisabeth KüblerRoss wrote this book at the end of the sixties, almost some fifty years ago and there is much about the world that has changed, and some of what she describes can become difficult to apply to the world we know now.
Some level of personal experiences and beliefs that seemed to go against some aspects of the book and the people within its pages also made some aspects of the reading difficult.
Hospitals at least in the places that are part of the first world do not entirely resemble what KüblerRoss speaks of, They may not be perfect, may be over populated and overly busy, but some of the aspects of them has changed greatly, namely the way the family members of the patients are handled, and also the way that patients themselves are treated and what is available to them to help them not be so alone.
Of course, a lot of this changed thanks to the work of people like KüblerRoss and although the change made it hard to look at her work as being entirely usable in todays hospitals, it was in itself an enlightening way to see what exactly had changed throughout the years.
That aside, the fifty years since this book was written, show in a myriad of way throughout the pages, Someone I talked to this about joked that People dont die the same anymore, but I do think there is a difference in how a lot of the aspects of dying are approached in todays society, and not all of them are changes that occurred because of research done on this topic.
Some, simply happened because the world, our society, changed and evolved, One of the most often evoked worry of the dying in the book is that their spouse is having to take on responsibilities that were not theirs before: for men they worry about their wives looking after the financial and business side of things for women they worry of leaving their husbands to have to do everything around the household and look after the children.
Gender roles were still strongly
enforced and respected when KüblerRoss wrote this book, Nowadays they are slowlybut surelybeing forgotten, Women work, men raise children and for the most part no one bats an eyelid at it all, As such it could be quite difficult, and extremely jarring to fully understand the worry of these patients who felt like they were putting on their husbands too much or not feeling confident that their wives could handle the business they were leaving behind.
I think that, as someone who sees themselves as a feminist and stands against gendered stereotypes, these parts were particularly hard to get through, It made me angry because, surely, surely it shouldnt have been that way, I had to remind me when this book was written several times to get through these particularly bits, Similarly, the heavy emphasis on religion, Christianity I should say, was troubling to me, It was this tacit understanding that bar a few exceptions there is mention of a Jew at one point, this was the religion that everyone shared, that was accepted as the norm and, in a way expected.
Again, this is something that from my personal experience has changed and I cannot imagine that researchers would so easily involve members of the clergy in their research as KüblerRoss did back then.
Finally, the last outdated, rageinducing part of this book was the use of the word negro that felt so out of place and so wrong in the context that it made me extremely uncomfortable and judging how hard as a world we have to fight against racism if it might be a plan to edit such words out of texts that are supposed to be openminded.
Now all these things aside, On Death and Dying made for a truly interesting read, not least of all because it reveals the origins of what we take now for granted as the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
Nowadays these are applied to any grief, but when Elisabeth KüblerRoss developed and first talked about them, she was not talking about the grief of the living, of those that stay behind, she was talking of the grief of those that are dying and know that they are going to lose everyone and everything that they grew close and worked towards in their lifetime.
In this the book holds several revelations, First of all, when studying grief, I had always struggled with the stage of bargaining, and more importantly with when it came in the process, When looking at the grief I had experienced, bargaining suddenly didnt come after anger, or at least not in the way textbooks had presented it to me, And also it seemed to apply only to cases where the grieving person had known that the deceased had been dying and could not be applied so easily to sudden and violent deaths.
Seeing it as a part of the stages that the dying goes through made tremendously more sense,
But more than anything, On Death and Dying made me look at dying in a way that would have been impossible without experiencing it myself or working on the wards where these people spent their last hours, days, months or years.
I did not find it as scary as I thought, or as difficult, Instead it made me understand some things attached to my own grief attached to the friend I had to watch die recently, I understood more about what she went through and how she struggled and I truly wish that I had read this book earlier, I think, simply, KüblerRoss asks us to be more human, to look at people and see them as a person no matter their state or their pain, And it should sound an easy enough thing to do but we are famously bad as a race to see things from a point of view that is not our own and in that, her work is tremendously important.
I dont know if I could handle working with the dying as she did, for I found their stories in turn heart breaking and frustrating, but I have learnt a great deal for learning this book.
Not least of all that hope is something we should be able to carry with us until the very end, I had never considered that the dying too grieve, for it is something so little talked about, But now all I can think is, of course they do, It seems now like such obvious a thing that I can but be grateful as this book for how it opened my eyes, I cannot imagine anyone who works with terminally ill patients who should not read this book, They made find it difficult in places, as I did, for our world has changed, but the lesson that it carries, the wisdom within its pages has no need to change, because no amount of time passed will ever make it entirely irrelevant.
.