Explore Ein Sommer Unwahrscheinlichen Glücks: Wie Ich Ihn Losließ Und Damit Meine Ehe Rettete Formulated By Laura Munson Available In Kindle

many other readers perhaps I first heard of Munson's situation when reading her guest piece in The New York Times Modern Love column.
The overwhelming number of readers'responses to that "IDon'tLoveYou/IDon'tBuyIt" column caused the paper to temporarily shut down the comments section for it.


One quickly becomes to care about Laura Munson as she struggles to use what she has been practicing staying with her strengths and internal equilibrium rather than turning angry or sunken victim.
Her core theme in response to her husband was "Choose freedom, not suffering, Create a life of freedom, not wanting, "

I enjoyed reading about her family life before meeting her husband, the way they met and the nature of their early and seemingly enduring bond.
These parts of the book help the

reader understand why and how she took her unusual path to respond to his announcement that he wasn't sure he loved her anymore and he was planning to leave their Montana farmhouse and move into town.


Yet I had anticipated, from the descriptions of the book that more of it would cover the actual interaction during that troubled time after the announcement.
She does deftly cover that time yet, perhaps aptly, the major of the book is about her often internal, spiritual journey to become fully her own person in life.
That she begins this memoir during the "troubled summer" and is writing it in real time as it unfolds is breathtakingly brave.
After all, she did not know if her marriage would survive and she frequently refers to herunpublished novels,

The success of this book, then, must be doubly sweet for her,

Ultimately her avowed goal of nonattachment seemed in conflict with her clear attachment to staying married yet one can't help but be happy that this marriage appears to be saved and seemingly strengthened by, not just her steps towards freedom but his markedly improved behavior towards her.
Sounds like a plot for Lifetime TV, I liked this book. I think I wanted to like it slightly more than I did after I heard about the premise on NPR.
Then, when I started the book the author kind of annoyed me, Her trustfund baby background pushed all my prejudice buttons and set up a nice little tone of resentment that hung between the story and myself and threatened to undo all the possibility for mutuality and connection that is the very heart of enjoying a memoir.


Yeah, and then I got over it, Laura is a little bit spoiled, She had a life that is a little bit too charmed, But she knows it, and she feels a little guilty about it even privileged people, it turns out, can have brilliant experiences that can move others to compassion and inspiration.
Her marriage isn't my ideal dream, she isn't who I want to become, she isn't even who I am or have been.
. . but she's got something really graspitbetweenyourfingers RIGHT and that rightness she discovered is the real inspiration,

I found her writing style sometimes annoying, sometimes pleasant and never breathtaking, I thought her story was sometimes eyerolling and sometimes relateable and I thought over all that the resolution was only somewhat convincing.
Will they make it Is four months enough to be able to say that they had "resolved" this marital crisis I don't know.
But I do know that the position of compassion instead of accusation, holding to yourself and solving your own problems instead of jumping to destroy the other person in a conflict is good and healthy and right.
. . however very, very difficult and super unAmerican it may be,

After I read Munson's book I checked out some of the philosophers who influenced her and some of the writings she says are her bedrock goto texts and frankly, I found them pretty much inaccessible to me.
I don't "get" most of philosophy but I do get Munson's story, the beautiful aroma her book gives off because she steeped herself in the great thinkers and as a wife I hope to carry her kind of respect and compassion both for myself and my husband into my own married life.
I hope it's catching. This book is a great friend to have nearby, Too bad it can't dial, text or meet for overly priced coffee or subpar wine, Pretend it's that silent, knowing friend and you will get some good advice on navigating relationships and being true to yourself.
Marriage is hard every single day, But knowing yourself is even harder, Munson bravely exposes herself in this open chronicle of her marriage and we can all benefit from it, Empowerment, judgement, eyerolling, highfivesit's all there, It's all hers and it's yours, too, While waiting in the dentist office, I read about this book in a magazine, I really didn't even know what it was about, What intrigued me was the fact the author had been trying to be a writer for years, She had submitted numerous books but this is the first one that was accepted for publication, Of course, she had gotten "wonderful rejection letters", The idea of the article was to not give up hope and keep with your dreams, I was curious what the book she finally got published was about, I had to wait several weeks for this book to come in at the library,
Now, comes what I thought of the book, It is a true accounting of a time when her husband comes to her and says he doesn't love her anymore, they are in great financial trouble, his business is going bust, he doesn't want to be married any more, etc.
She decides she still loves him and she doesn't believe him so she is going to take the high road and believe he still loves her and their marriage is going to survive.
Ok, all and good. She writes the book chapter by chapter as the drama plays out,
Basically, she let's him do anything and she doesn't get mad or react, He is allowed to come and go as he pleases, He can talk to her in a demeaning way and be unreliable with the two children, a boy ofand a girl of.
In one chapter, he comes home very late one night and sleeps on the couch, She makes a wonderful breakfast in the morning, The idea is, she will give him no ammunition for saying she is the problem, It really isn't about her but that he is going through a life crisis, She is going to wait it out, She does this with the help of her therapist who supports her decision, Of course, friends say "kick the bum out", And, throughout the book, I am with the friends,
She does says she had a very privileged life, She tries the make it not the issue the trip to Italy with her right before the whole problem started was paid for with frequent flyer miles, they stayed with a family she had been an exchange student with, etc.
. But, for a family in dire economic straights, they show no signs of economizing, She doesn't seem to know her husband's business was going bust, She never even entertains the idea of working and adding to the family income, She encourages the husband to go to South America, take helicopter lessons, etc, to get him to feels he is doing something good for himself, All this seem like something a family truly in financial problems can't afford, In the end, she buys a big ticket item at his encouragement, It is confusing how they are dealing with being in the horrible debt they are supposedly in, She tries to not come off as a pampered, spoiled rich girl, but she does,
Of course, at the end, the marriage seems back on track, I think she is probably always worried about being some perfect wife so it doesn't happen again, Heavens knows what the kids took from it Moms a pushover and men are allowed to act horribly This would be my guess.
I felt she was proud of how she handled the situation, I felt like slapping her,



This book was so horrible that I struggled to continue past thest chapter, . . but I did and persevered to finish the whole horrid mess, Ms. Munson's style of writing is disjointed, juvenile, and filled with unnecessary and gratuitous expletives, She comes across as a privileged, spoiled, selfcentered, and materialistic hasbeen debutante, . . not the most likable of characters, While we read about her marriage falling apart, it is difficult to dredge up any sort of sympathy for her character, nor for the spineless, selfish, lying, childish estranged husband of hers who is causing her so much grief and turmoil.
Afterprevious "books" received publishers rejection letters, I wonder how this one happened to slip through
P, S. I am rarely this harsh on books, but this one was beyond bad! This is one of those books that really resonated with me.
It's a book of direct selfreflection, as the author makes her way through of a marriage going off the rails.

With great honesty, Munson opens herself and her process to the reader's scrutiny, . . while it's not always pretty, it's clear and forceful,
You get to walk alongside the author as she walks the path of selfdiscovery, . . and sometimes, that path leads in a direction you never imagine,
I'm a retired counsellor, and this was a "must read" book for many of my clients,
It's perfect, though, for anyone who is confronting the vagaries of life, and looking for a compassionate walking partner.

First of all, you should all read this book, Everyone in the world should read this book,

Why Because it's about relationships, It's about communication. It's about finding your own bliss not tying all of your happiness up into another person, You must find happiness in yourself,

I started this book and was three pages into it when I realized that a friend of mine who is going through a rough spot in her marriage needed to read it.
I told her to go right to the store and get it, She did and it really helped her understand what was going on, I told her it would either help her leave him or help her stay with him and it did,

The phrase "There is a big difference between wanting and creating" comes from this book, And what that means is that we focus our lives on our wants and forget to create our own lives.
We don't create roads to get what we want,

Munson wrote this book as a diary of sorts when her husband informed her that he didn't think he loved her anymore.
This book is her working through all of the emotions that she is going through, She ponders what will happen to the emotional health of her children, She wonders what she did to deserve this,

Of course, we often assume that WE did something to deserve the treatment we receive, But often it can be about the other person's issues and how they take them out on us, This book explores that.

The book also backs up what I've always said: Men are far more likely to define themselves by their career, while women define themselves by their home and family.


It also discusses the difference between how men and women communicate, I'll be the first to admit that I love to talk an issue to death, Bob would rather let it solve itself, Somewhere in the middle is the best way to handle it,

I highly, highly recommend this book, It should be required reading for all relationships, .