Catch The Myth Of The Nice Girl: Achieving A Career You Love Without Becoming A Person You Hate Authored By Fran Hauser Offered In Script

of the few selfhelp type books that focus on the point and don't spread too thin by repeating the same thing over and over.
Full of practical advice and strategies for career advancement, I absolutely LOVE this book, Women do not have to be a bi to be in charge and Fran shares stories about herself, her mentors and her colleagues to show how this can be done.
She also includes stats about the wage gap and this one about men vs, women applying for jobs: Men often apply for jobs when they meet onlyof the qualifications, Women need to ask themselves if they'requalified,

Some of the pieces of advice she shared that really resonated are:
, Pay attention to the way you talk about yourself
, STOP SAYING SORRY
. If something at work bothers you or in life for that matter, say it! Spare yourself a week of analyzing and advice from friends and just squash it in the moment.

. Understand if you're doing something because you want to, or because it will please someone else,
This is just a bland career advice book whose central message is: don't be a jerk, but don't be a pushover.
It's an important message sadly, but I think it mostly applies to people I mean, women starting out in their careers, This book is fantastic and is a must read for any female executive or employee, There are so many valuable lessons in here that are going to help me as a female CEO, lessons that will help my young managers, and even our most junior employees.
There wereactionable suggestions in this book that I am starting to incorporate into my company's work today, and I just finished the book yesterday! I got this because I mentor young women.
There are some sections specific to women and sexism, but much of the book could apply to “nice people” in general, I expect numerous tips will be useful, I could not put this book down! The Myth of the Nice Girl is a practical guide on how to succeed with kindness, integrity, and authenticity.
Fran Hauser gives her readers permission to show up as themselves in the workplacenice AND ambitious, She provides personal examples of how being nice and genuinely connected with others leads to professional advancement and perhaps more importantly, fulfillment.
But, do not mistake kindness for weakness! Fran is a savvy and successful business woman who knows her worth and stands her ground.
The Myth of the Nice Girl encourages and teaches the reader how to do the same, This might be the most influential professional development book I have ever come across, Because Fran shares so generously from her own personal experience her advice is accessible and applicable wherever you are on the career ladder.
I cannot wait to give this book as a gift! I read this book for a "Women in Leadership" group at work.
The title was intriguing and there are a few good suggestions, but partway through I was over the name dropping,

"A candid guide for ambitious women who want to succeed without losing themselves in the process,
In The Myth of The Nice Girl, Fran Hauser deconstructs the negative perception of "niceness" that many women struggle with in the business world.
If women are nice, they are seen as weak and ineffective, but if they are tough, they are labeled a bitch, Hauser proves that women dont have to sacrifice their values or hide their authentic personalities to be successful, Sharing a wealth of personal anecdotes and timetested strategies, she shows women how to reclaim “nice” and sidestep regressive stereotypes about what a strong leader looks like.
Her accessible advice and hardwon wisdom detail how to balance being empathetic with being decisive, how to rise above the double standards that can box you in, how to cultivate authentic confidence that projects throughout a room, and much more.
" Let us take a minute to appreciate the cover of this book,

I have picked up and read many leadership/selfhelp books in my short millennial life mainly because of the buzz around an author's great accomplishments.
In addition, I am not one to judge a book by its cover but I have to admit this was sourced from Netgalley purely because of the cover.
I had never heard of Fran Hauser in my neck of the internet woods until I got through this book, You can see her accomplishments on her website,

In The Myth of the Nice Girl, Fran unpacks from her extensive corporate experience how she was able to harness her 'niceness' into a superpower and achieve her career and general life goals.
Drawing mainly from her own experiences and the women that she has mentored over the years, she gives specific examples of how colleagues because we tend to spend most of our lives working can easily mistake 'niceness' or 'kindness' for weakness.
Women are caught in a doublebind because if they are nice, they are labelled pushovers, mediocre and people pleasers, On the other end of the spectrum, if they are firm and speak up, they are regarded as arrogant, selfish or rude.


One of the major issues that Ms Hauser tackles in the book is saying no especially when you feel that it could strain a relationship.
Popular career advisors will state that is important to go above and beyond one's call of duty so that you can not broaden your skills and portfolios but also increase your visibility in your company.
However, what they may not openly state is that when you say yes to a new project, you also say no other things like time with your loved ones or "selfcare" time.


In the chapter titled "Set Boundaries and Be Caring", Fran shares

how she came to prioritise boundaries in her professional life as a nice person.
Fran learned this first hand when she became known as the girl who volunteers for everything till her boss automatically assigned her additional tasks.
So she mustered the courage with the following script :

"I've been struggling with how to talk to you about this.
Over the past two weeks, I've had to change my personal plans three times at the last minute to stay late, I'm afraid my boyfriend is going to break up with me! But truthfully, I wonder if this is a good opportunity for someone else on the team to step up and pitch in.
"

Examining this response, Fran was respectable with her boss but still got her point across with a touch of humour.
You bet that she not only gained her boss' respect but also from her colleagues, Since she was able to get him to spread pending work more evenly among her team members in future instances, giving them opportunities to shine.


Some people regard books in the female leadership space as propagating malebashing, This book is nothing of the sort, Fran clearly shows through examples from both male and female colleagues that it is important to correct people especially when they are inappropriate or acting as bullies.
As humans, we are prone to err, That said, it is important to use that situation as a learning point and know when it is time to escalate the issue.


Aside from the stunning cover, readers will appreciate Fran's seasoned advice and the step by step strategies on how to establish boundaries, negotiating "winwin" deals while being nice, up your networking game and to speak up at meetings.
For selfhelp junkies, this book might have very familiar content but it you will appreciate the anecdotes and help you muster the courage to make small but lifechanging styles.
With endorsements from heavyweights like Arianna Huffington and Randi Zuckerberg, The Myth of the Nice Girl poised to be a bestselling hit, so keep it on your radar.


first appeared on Kerry's Blog,