Access Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 1: 49 Must-Know Tips On How To Be The Perfect Dom/Master Your Submissive Will Truly Respect & Admire (Guide To Healthy BDSM) (Volume 1) Documented By Matthew Larocco Accessible As Digital

guide and introduction to the world, role and actions of the DOM! After the movie and research, one can get confused about reality, Larocco brings home what everyone is actually looking for, Dom is in the title, but this is what anyone wanting to know what a sub wants should be looking here first, I liked and hated this book as it is too basic and simplistic in places too beginerish but, maybe that's my problem, .

Some four years into the Scene I took a couple years off from doing the Dom thing other than in scene play from time to time.
Back to M/s of late, trying my hand as Master and Sir, I thought I could for sure use some help some ideas how to do a better job.
Like many men, I've been beaten down by a thousand books from thes forward on being politically correct and all nicey nice around male/female relations.
Even though I'd had some Dom experience and read a dozen books on BDSM I ordered Vol,and finished it this morning, One can read it in a few hours, It does read easily and is generally written well,

Likes:

I liked the cover, the size, the feel and the price of the actual book, It will be fun to take these three small volumes and pass them around at a munch for a discussion on how one learns to be a Dom, since Doms are supposed to come from the womb all badass and jerks and knowitalls.
Or so we are told,

I liked that he compares a male Dom/Master's job not unlike as household, Yes, some of us who wanted that fantasy enjoy M/s and Dom play as we actually get to BE that for a time,

I liked and found some good tips among theMust Know tips about ten I'd say,

Larocco not his real name I guess we don't know if he'soror even lives in the US understands that BDSM is adult play and not the Real World.
Even for/folks, it's not the real world, Nobody can be successful dropping all one's non Scene friends to be only and always kinky, Come on. Also, he understands that BDSM is not just playing with pain and pleasure but arm chair therapy a place one can work out stuff, Nice. And, he sees much of kink as role play and performance art and playing with intimacy, I agree with him here,

Didn't Like: He reveals NOTHING of himself as a person how he learned his Domliness, Some syntax and editing errors, too, No excuse here. Also, he seems only to pontificate as Doms often do what indeed is the True Way of kink, Only on occasion here and there does he hint that there might be another way, The tone is humble though but the deliveryis This is how you do it to do it right,

So, I will read the other two books of his in the series I'm sure I'll learn a thing or two, I'm happy with the money and time exposed to his writing, Three.

PS. Reading now Dr. Bob and his Master/slave Mastery Updated and will try Robert J, Rubel Ph. D and M. Jen Fairfield's follow up title foryrs, BDSMers and Leather folk, Master/Slave Mastery: Refining the fire, as I've found that he has presented at conferences on this matter for years, As a submissive and an erotic author, I have read many books about the subject of BDSM, some good, some bad, some downright horrible,
I have to say that this book is the best book I have read about BDSM training, Matthew GETS BDSM and knows how Doms tick, His matter is straight forward and not sugar coated or judgmental, He even mentions how far off the mark the movie Fifty Shades is, as far as accurately showing how BDSM truly works, I felt the same way plus the acting was atrocious, Lots of BDSM authors applaud this movie, which I'll never understand,
I already ordered two books by Matthew Larocco and lent the first one to my husband,
Bravo, Matthew Larocco. With your unflinching and helpful writing, perhaps one day BDSM will be widely accepted as being a cool lifestyle, and not something to be ashamed of.
Very interesting read
Now Im looking for a sub to control and put into practice what Ive read This book is nearly worthless, other than maybe for starting a fire with it's pages.
It's full of redundant common sense that any one over the age ofwould probably already know, I gained absolutely nothing from this text, very disappointing Put my back out after reding the first chapter and have thus far been unable to try any of the other stuff, which is a shame as I have always fancied space docking.
This is a smaller book than I was expecting, probably because I only know the topic by reputation and film, The first part of the book is interesting, As a history nut, this was really an engaging and fascinating part to read, A lot of the book is a practical approach and doing away with popular misconceptions outsiders of which I am one have and why those misconceptions are wrong.
The rest is a "don't scare your partner with these kinds of things" approach since that will show just what a noob you are, No one wants to be a noob, so if you are interested in this kind of thing, read the book, save your pride and ego, then give it to your Mom to read.
You never know it might change your dad's life, As a novice Dom I was hoping for a good read, which is why I bought the book,

I gave the bookstars, because to put it simply the cons highly outweigh the pros of this book,

Pros:
The book has a clear message which it gets delivered by the end of reading it
Some tips are useful

Cons:
Very shorthours read
Too iterative the author is repeating himself over and over again
Too much common sense
Most of the tips are either common sense or not useful

The main problem with this book which is why it would have deservedstar is, that you wont be any better Dom than prior to reading it.
Yes, you will understand better what BDSM is all about, but thats about it, For me a dissappointment.

Still, it was not a complete waste of time, as some of the tips were actually useful, Also it delivers the important message of what a d/s relationship is quite accurately and correctly,

Nevertheless, boring and highly overrated in my opinion, At least in a vacuum were there is no volumeand, I bought those books as well, havent read them yet, It contains good advice for beginners but nothing and very thin for a book costing almost seven pounds that has no illustrations, The book presents the information in bite sized pieces which is helpful, It represents what I personally call 'true dominant' behaviour Clearly informing future dominants that they are NOT the ones actually in charge, They are there to PLEASE their subs, and provide a safe, protected space at all timesmost newbie males claiming to be Doms think it means being a selfish bully and a jerk who demands what HE wants from a sub and that person is there to serve HIM without having any say so in how they are treatedhe corrects this marvelously! This will weed out the 'Waaaahna be's"

However, not all subs desire pain of any kind.
. and I feel this is an important oversight, unless corrected in future volumes, I really recommend this book, if you are thinking of going ahead with your Dom's future
I found it a must read to know what you have to be, it covers all the important stuff and the rules are repeated to you as a reminder of behaviour and who you need to be.

Not who you are pretending to be, Much of what weve “heard” about BDSM and the lifestyle is wrong, Our opinions on this lifestyle and art form are oftentimes shaped by other people who have heard something about it and perhaps embellished it to the point of perpetuating myths.
The truth is that BDSM is not degrading towards women, and its also a concept that you will find is not “scary, ” And even the “pain” that is spoken of is not the type of pain people think it is, This book is written for Doms/Masters in

training, It is written for you, the average guy or gal, who doesnt already have a closet full of leather and whips, and who really has little idea about what BDSM is besides what theyve heard about it.
What you are going to find out, is that the Dom/Master actually has the complicated role, The master has the task of giving pleasure and discipline to the slave or sub, A great deal of what you do as a Dom will be for the benefit of a sub, You must derive pleasure from giving, have a great desire to please a partner, and not simply take what you want, Still interested Good. Now that we know youre a REAL master in training, one that will respect the rules, respect the slave you have power over, and follow protocol, you can begin your Dom training.
Only then can you truly earn the utmost respect and admiration from your sub, In Volumeof this series we are going to discuss: How to think and act like a Dom What the slave expects from you What not to do and what instincts you do NOT want to follow Your motivation and your goals How to find out a subs taboo How to negotiate, find agreement and ensure that game play is always safe How to make a slave yearn for you and desire to be controlled by you And much.