Get Access Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, And Lives Devised By Suzana E. Flores Accessible Through Document

An interesting perspective of a clinical psychologists view of Facebook, We read many accounts of her patients' negative experiences with Facebook, The downfall is that these are then generalized to society overall, People who have anxiety, depression or more are most likely going to have negative experiences with Facebook, Those who are well adjusted and mentally healthy are going to find Facebook to be a way to stay connected to friends and loved ones.
I do appreciate the opportunity to read this through NetGalley,
Oh, the vanity! I am guilty, I have sinned. But Facebook is just getting creepier, I don't want to see my fb friends' friends posts, That's just weird. And, despite my privacy settings, I believe my fb friends' friends can see my posts if my friends "like" them, WTF Bad idea. Except probably most people don't even care, Frowny face. This constant need to be entertained Flores calls it "distracted" has got me apoplectic, We have created the Kardashians and this haunts me, Our society is in decline,

Our addiction to entertainment, our overfull bellies and those still grasping at the American Dream I get the feeling Trump supporters are not an upwardly mobile bunch must explain why we are not in a revolution or civil war.
We're too busy with fb to notice how obscene, and obscenely wealthy, the Trumps and the Kardashians of our country are,

OTOH, I LIKE seeing my friends' pictures of their kids, dogs and cats, cocktails at sunset, milestones, etc, Idk.

Part primer: I learned you should not share your friends posts without asking, Despite the fact that they are up there, your friends might not want them to go further, TDLR is a thing, Too Long, Didn't Read! Love that one, FOMO is a thing. Millions of people are apparently compulsively checking fb for Fear of Missing Out, Frowny.

Part psychoanalysis: Obviously, we seek validation but doing so electronically can really mess a human up, Not healthy. I suffer from "technology overstimulation, " I knew it but not the phraseology, I thought I was a technophobe but that's not quite accurate,

Part science: "Internet Addiction Disorder IAD, . . is linked with certain brain abnormalities and changes blood flow, " It is, in all likelihood, CHANGING OUR BRAINS, potentially leading to a panoply of behavior problems, How dystopian can we get Can we win this one Do we want to Coming soon, navelless humanoid creatures bred by machines, Wait. Maybe the Kardashians are the vanguard,

"Fb is no longer just a bridge between our thoughts and the world fb has become an alternate reality, "

On phantom phone vibration: "Something in your brain is being triggered that's different than what was triggered just a few short years ago.
" Dr. Larry Rosen. I want to go back in time, Sort of.

On the confusion of fb cacophony: "What is schizophrenia but the inability to make the distinction between reality and hallucination" Good lord! She's right.


On the loss of human interaction, paraphrasing Kant: ", . . our selfawareness is a direct consequence of things outside us, We get to know ourselves only through our interaction, and therefore we are dependent on the feedback of others, " "A dependency on online approval makes us lose our sense of selfreliance, . . We will stop relying on our knowledge and intuition, . . and instead look to others for direction, " "When we rely too much on approval the "like" button, we give away our power, . . which in turn causes us to lose all sense of self, " Do the extremely fragile SJWs on college campuses lack these experiences I sometimes feel like kids these days a ready to burn our first amendment because it causes them to feel unsafe.
Are we all gonna get Aspergery Are we already

I recommend the book although I thought it could've been tightened up a bit.
Perfect title. I picture a fish hook in my cheek pulling me into the frame of my fb profile pic, Everyone time I complain about bloated book length my husband insists it's about sales, People apparently want heft in their hands if they're gonna shell out for it, Editors apparently even increase font size and white space to add bulk, So, so counterintuitive to me, I received this book through Goodreads First reads program and am not being reimbursed to provide this review,

"Facebook makes drama easy!" Dr, Suzana E. Flores, "Facehooked. "


When I got "Facehooked" in the mail I was excited and started reading it almost right away, I have to admit that initially, I was a little worried about what the "leaning" would be, if there was one, because one of the first few "praise" quotes listed at the front of the book was given by someone I don't agree with politically and quite frankly, find pretty offputting in general.
I found myself wondering what one had to do with the other,

However, I was interested in the topic, the author, Dr, Suzana E. Flores, has solid credentials and good research so I put that person out of my mind and moved forward, First, I want to point out that I LOVE how she organized the book! Each chapter is about a challenge of Facebook and throughout the chapter, Facebook users individually provide feedback on that particular issue complete with a "status update" that includes a silhouetted profile picture and basic information gender, age, location.
Flores finishes each chapter with the question "Where do we go from here" and offers readers suggestions of how they can handle that issue in their life.


I would think it would be nearly impossible for ANY reader of this day and age to read this book and not relate to SOMETHING in it.


Dr. Flores is a clinical psychologist who no longer goes even a day in her practice without hearing how one of her patients has been affected by Facebook.
She has patients who have a very difficult time putting down their phones even for a whole session, Some of her patients exhibit OCDlike behaviors like constantly having to check their phones or shaky hands if they don't have their phone right with them.
And she asks who are we trying to represent on Facebook Is it ourselves Is it a version of ourselves Is it someone completely different Flores points out that at best, creating online personas is just fun but at worst, it can be a very manipulative way to deceive others.
Additionally, how are we responding to the perceived profiles of others There has been research done that shoes that when people see pictures on Facebook of good times other "friends" are having vacations, weddings, etc.
they feel envious and many people feel worse about themselves after getting off their computers,

Another issues Dr, Flores deals with is the issue of privacy, or rather, the lack thereof, It seems as though privacy is becoming less and less important to us and that has repercussions, Before Facebook,

people had a public life what everyone saw and a private life what went on behind closed doors and now, there is almost no distinction.
This is primarily scary as it applies to kids because, even if they are told over and over, they don't grasp that EVERYTHING they put online will be accessible by potential colleges, people awarding internships, employees, etc.
Even worse, they don't realize when they compromise their own safety, On a personal note, I'll never forget when I opened up my Facebook to find myyearold niece, profile picture of her in a bikini, with a status that read: Hey, I'm home alone and bored! Hit me up/text me at !.
Her profile was COMPLETELY public, It didn't occur to her that ANYONE could've found her best friend's name on her page, texted her and said, "Hey, this is , I have a new number but my mom needs your address again.
. . " and BAM, a child predator could've been at their door inminutes, I called my brother and he took care if it immediately but still, she was only protected in that instance because I happened to check out my FB page!

Flores asks us to think about who are friends really are.
Are they really the HUNDREDS of people we "know" on Facebook or the group it has always been And, what can Facebook do to our friendships When we're communicating with friends on FB and can't determine their body language or tone of voice, it can lead to some nasty misunderstandings that can end friendships.
And if FB can interfere with friendships, what havoc can it reek on relationships From people being tricked into dating someone who is completely different than who they say they are online to people discovering they're husband wants a divorce because he changed his relationship status to "divorced" and threw up a picture of him and another woman, it can just be BRUTAL.
Flores relayed a story about a man who had become SO angry at his wife for "liking" so many posts about a certain man and "following" him online, etc.
that he smashed her laptop and assaulted her, The man Mitt Romney. She presents examples of couples who break up and sever FB ties as well and who might have a mutual friend who is informing the other about everything he or she does.
It's scary!

The part of her book that resonated most with me when she presented information about teenagers and bullying, etc.
I actually read parts of it to myandyearold daughters neither of whom are on FB because I thought it was so important.
Kids who are on Facebook all the time rarely TRULY understand that NOTHING they do is private, Being on Facebook during the time their brains are developing the most can actually change things like their ability to function in an organized way.
Also, when kids start getting bullied online, they become frantic and don't know how to respond, After talking to ayearold girl named Marlene, Flores says, "Marlene is absolutely right school administrators must make efforts to understand their students' interactive world.
How else can they conceptualize what cyberbullying is or how it emotionally affects teens" She goes on to provide parents with action based advice to help them navigate this new territory.


The psychology of addiction is the same, no matter what the "substance" Facebook is one such substance, We are often so obsessed with the newest technology that we can't seem to get enough and never worry along the way about what the search might be doing to us.
Flores says, "We've gotten so busy focusing on whether or not we can gain more and more online information that we've forgotten to question whether or not we SHOULD.
" And, just like any other addiction, FB is just masking the real problem whatever we're missing in our lives that we are trying to fill up using Facebook is the real problem.


Toward the end of the book Flores points out that, "The internet and social media have made our lives easier and more enjoyable in many ways, but they were never meant to replace life.
" I think that sums up the many thoughtprovoking points she made in this mustread book for anyone who uses the internet for more than email! And let's face it, that's pretty much all of us! Fascinating! Energising! Will need bringing up to date frequently as things are changing so fast but the first thoughts here will retain their validity for those fresh to the scene.
Reading Facehooked has inspired me to be more conscious and balanced about the time my family and I spend online, Dr. Suzana Flores presents a compelling, eyeopening look at how Facebook has dramatically changed the way we socialize and connect with others, As the mother of a preteen, I appreciated the chapter on "Teen Cliques and Clicks," especially Flores' tips for helping young adults use social media appropriately.
I also enjoyed the reallife stories from other Facebook users woven throughout the book, As a result of reading this book, I know I'll be more thoughtful and deliberate about engaging in social media, With the advent of social media the pressure of keeping up with the Joneses has never been so great or far reaching,

Facehooked is an excellent resource for parents of tweens and primary school teachers,

This book had a lot of good advice for people of all ages,
A few things that everyone must remember:
Whatever you put out there on social media is anyones for the taking,
Dont be too sensitive, If something bothers you call the person not in a confrontational sense but just as friends,
Dont think “friending” your teen is going to allow you to see what they are doing, They are smarter than that,
If you are clicking around on other peoples profiles be assured that someone out there will be looking at yours,

Teens get bored with anything quickly and are soon on to the next thing, Facebook is fading quickly for teens in Australia and they are moving on to Instagram, Tumblr and Snapchat to stay in touch,

Facebook is not a true picture of someones life, Some extremes are the sympathy poster that always posts bad news and then you have the person that only posts about their perfect children and perfect husband.
Some always seem to be on a permanent holiday, We must remember this is just a snapshot of a moment in time and we cannot judge our own life by these posts.


We are losing the art of talking and written words can sometimes convey a wrong mood,
Just remember to finish every sentence with a smiley : I was taught this little area of social etiquette by my daughters :

We all know someone who is Facehooked but its not us, right!

I would like to thank Reputation Books via Netgalley for my copy to read and review.



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