Grasp The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies Youve Been Taught And How To Recover What God Intended Showcased By Sheila Wray Gregoire Classified In Brochure
book is a must read for all Christian married couples! Too many marriages arent thriving because of the harmful messaging of popular Christian books and teachings from family or the church.
Couples are experiencing pain and resentment, brokenness and shame as a result of teachings that dont point couples towards one another through the lens of the love of Jesus and valuing one another as image bearers of Christ.
Couples deserve to know that there are better and more healthy resources and messages available to them,
This book uses research to demonstrate the effects of those harmful messages and helps rewrite your marriage and sex mindset to bring healing and restore Christlike qualities to your relationship.
If you or your spouse dont experience sex as “life giving mutual serving and knowing of each other” this book can help you find your way to a marital sex life that is trust filled, passionate, free from obligation and shame, and filed with intimacy helping you thrive in abundance as God untended.
I found Sheila's blog To Love Honor and Vacuum about a year ago and she was just beginning to unpack the findings of the survey that led to this book.
I read blog post after blog post, finally feeling SEEN after years of receiving harmful messages regarding sex in marriage, I ordered this book at the first possible minute it was available and was beyond excited to get it and start reading it.
It did not disappoint!
While this book would be an amazing resource for absolutely anyone in a marriage, the parts that were most meaningful to me were the parts that highlighted the damage done by current messaging in the Evangelical church surroundingCorinthians:and the obligation sex message, as well as sex as a means of addressing a pornography addiction.
There is freedom to be found in the pages of this book, and I cannot recommend it highly enough, There is an unflinching consideration of consent in marriage, and they address marital rape and coercion, The authors also tackle so many other issues such as knowing your body anatomy lesson included!, what to do when a woman cannot orgasm, how to cope with and begin to explore the treatment for vaginal pain during intercourse.
They do all this with a steady view on healthiness,
This is a comprehensive research based book, and its also very relatable and practical, At the end of each chapter are suggestions to try to help a couple move out of being stuck in some areas, and additionally some ways to reframe the conversation and get it moving in the right direction so that women can begin to know their bodies and have a mindset toward sex and sexuality that will allow for the mutuality in the relationship God intended.
To summarize, this book is part anatomy lesson, part course correction for harmful teaching, and part cheerleader, They succeeded in starting the "important conversations about what sex is supposed to be personal, pleasurable, pure, prioritized, pressurefree, and passionate" to quote the authors themselves.
This is a lifechanging book, and trust me when I say I am not overstating this, Get it, read it, give to a friend, This message needs to be shared as far and wide as possible! I'm trying to figure out how long this book will be relevant.
Gregoire is determined to take on some of the most pernicious ideas about sex that have infiltrated Christian marriage books, and she does that with grace and courage.
However, I can't tell after one quick reading whether this is a book that stands on its own, or rather stands in opposition to ideas that needed correcting.
I can't tell if it lays out a positive, forwardmoving theology of sex that will actually help people who haven't been harmed by poor thinking on this subject.
I left the book still waiting for, . . something.
It certainly lives up to its subtitle by correcting the lies you've been taught, but I wonder what this book has to offer someone who hasn't been taught those lies.
Without getting overly personal, I will say that I'm familiar with all the teachings she mentions and have read at least some of the books she corrects, but I can't claim to have been damaged or worse off because of those teachings.
Even if you haven't personally been hurt by these teachings, the book is chock full of stories that show just how easily these theories can become toxic tools of manipulation in a relationship.
I'm so glad she tackled this difficult, awkward, personal subject, This book will be a gift to many, many people and an eyeopening experience for many more, All that to say, I hope Gregoire has another book in her, I think this one clears debris and leaves room for a better ethics of sexual intimacy and I hope she's the one to write it out for the benefit of future couples and the pastors who lead their churches.
I don't really have adequate words for this book right now, It was like talking to a reassuring friend and a therapy session all in one, The authors quote many of the most popular teachings in the church regarding sex, and point out the logical conclusions of these beliefs, which reveal them for the toxic beliefs that they are.
Each chapter ends with ways to reframe the conversation, so that not only are we confronting the harmful teaching, but we are actively working to rebuild and reshape our thinking and teaching on the subject.
Definitely worth reading! I'm not really the target audience for this book as an unmarried guy who practices chastity, A friend had recommended this book to me since they still found it helpful to read as an unmarried guy, I'm not sure I found it as helpful as he did for this stage of life But perhaps mileage varies,
At any rate, One of the things this book made me appreciate is the nontrendy nature of my church culture growing up, Because holy moly do several trendy Christian marriage books from thes have some messed up views amp teachings about sex, It shouldn't have taken this long for someone like Gregoire amp co, to be making this a major discussion point in Christian circles, But good on them for doing so, because there have been some legitimately toxic teachings spread in certain Christian spheres over the past twenty years.
One of the major marketing points of this book is the massive survey the authors did on women's experiences and then discussed here.
I tended to have mixed feelings about the insights drawn from the survey, however, While there are many revealing and true points that Gregoire amp co, make from the survey, I at times had questions about their methodology and framing, There's a lot of correlation/causation questions that aren't really explored in this book, Gregoire amp co. often argue that bad biblical teachings have caused dysfunctional sexual habits, But they don't always prove causation, And sometimes they seem to fall prey to the ecological fallacy, arguing that because something is true for the group as a whole, that means it's true for each individual in that group.
I found this to be especially the case in their discussion on gender roles in marriage, and would have liked to see more careful analysis that investigated if what was true for each large group of people was also true for each subgroup within that larger group.
Their framing also seemed a bit biased at times, At one point, they also claim that,constitutes "most of the women in this survey" perhaps on a technicality But "half" would really be a more accurate framing,
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result, I generally found that the sections relying on biblical reasoning and common sense were more helpful than the sections relying on statistics.
Because you really shouldn't need statistics to prove that, say, wives aren't responsible for keeping their husbands from watching porn, Then again, given some of the Christian authors that have said this, . . maybe we do need such statistical arguments, :/
At any rate, the best sections of the book IMO were the sections talking about what a positive view of sexuality looks like.
Most of the book is focused on rebutting unhealthy views of sexuality, which makes sense given how widespread many of those ideas are.
But as someone who was already on the same page with Gregoire amp co, on that, I gleaned more from the visioncasting the authors did for what healthy sexuality should look like than from the rebuttals, I would guess that here again, though, mileage varies, and people who have grown up hearing these bad views will really appreciate these rebuttals.
At the end of the day, this wasn't the most helpful book for me personally given my unmarried status and church background.
But while I do have some statistical issues with the book, most of it was really quite good, and I could see it as being really helpful for people in different stages or from different backgrounds than myself.
Certainly if it leads to more people breaking free from bad teachings, that's a great success,
Rating:.Stars Good. Men, this book is a must read! This book is not just for women or even just couples, This book will change your outlook on sex and marriage, If you have read books like Every Man's Battle or Love and Respect, then this book is one that you NEED to read to understand the lies that youve been taught and how to recover what God intended!
The Great Sex Rescue will open your eyes to the harmful teachings from many of these books.
If you aren't married, are going to be married, or are married, make sure that you read this book, Sex was made by God to be mutually pleasing to both males and females, This book breaks the myth that men must have sex or they will turn to porn and be unfaithful as so many other books teach.
“Evangelical culture has used frequency as the measure of marital and sexual satisfaction even though research has found that frequency is not an accurate predictor at all even for men.
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This book has made me cringe from the many examples from other books that have been written, that talk about sex, and the stories from other women and how they have been taught that they must be in a marriage.
I have cried from some of these same stories that show women were treated like objects for sex, To think that this is and has been taught for years in best selling books by well known authors is heartbreaking,
This book helps redefine how we look at the word “sex” and makes it more than just intercourse, This book will change you and your marriage for the better!
Definitely worth purchasing and reading! It will give you a great perspective of harmful teaching that is in many of the other "Christian" books about marriage and sex.
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GreatSexRescue Interesting book, one of a group of books I'm reading because I know younger Christians find these books relevant and meaningful and I'd like to be knowledgeable.
This book is in reaction to books like "Love and Respect", "Sheet Music", "His Needs, Her Needs", etc, which focused on women being available to their husbands to help them not fall into sexual sin, This book wants women and men to understand that sex is about more than that, should be pleasurable for and desired by both partners, and if that isn't the case, here are some tips.
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This book made me feel schizophrenic, I read it with many hats on, so to speak, as someone who has read the older books, as an older person in a long marriage, as someone who wanted to hear what the authors had to say AND as someone who kept thinking, "Enough already! You're making too much of this!"
For women who are experiencing some of the problems in the book, this would probably be helpful to read, but only if your husband had the capacity to listen and care.
If that wasn't the case, this would be just another book that women read and get more frustrated and sad about their situations.
Why is it that the women are typically the ones reading, anyway!!
Maybe this book is more important at the current moment in history because SEX is such an idol in our culture and so it must be addressed I'd love to hear what Elisabeth Elliot or Edith Schaeffer would say about this topic.
I'm at a stage in life where it seems like one had better realize that the pendulum keeps swinging back and forth.
don't assume your short slice of life entitles you to a clear understanding of the truth, So many of these "reaction to, . . " books have the mindset of "we've got it figured out now, unlike the blockheads of the past, so just listen to us!", Beware such hubris. The Fall has clouded all of our minds and hearts, .