Access Block, Delete, Move On: It's Not You, It's Them Sketched By Lalalaletmeexplain Presented As Mobi

be that person. I dont like comparing books in reviews BUT Women dont owe you pretty is such an overhyped garbage compared to Lala, This is the book that should be plugged on all those shelves, Read this instead please shes someone with far more experience and actually knows what shes talking about, Im not talking about just dating a lot or reading all the right books but actual social work, child protection and domestic abuse experience,

Its not just an advice on dating book thats aboutchapters, Its about harmful social narrative, consent, recognizing abuse and warning signs, self love and so much more,

At least follow her on Instagram, only her poll time worth it, “So, when Gary jumps into conversations about rape or domestic violence to defend mens honour by letting us know that not every single man in the world is a danger to women, he just sounds like a dickhead.
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Strongly recommend this book which I think is a much needed read for many of us ! Ive always joked that I was going to write a book on how dating is hell.
Turns out, I dont actually need to because this book exists and covers most of what I would say Id add in a lot more about religious fboys though.
Really the fact that a book like this has to exist is heartbreaking, However, dating is what it is these days, Nonetheless, what Ive come away with from it is invaluable, The author keeps things real, but she does a fantastic job of remaining empathetic and including caveats as a way to address a variety of situations.
This is something a lot of authors lack and ends up alienating their readers, She really just proved that considering and giving voice to multiple examples of scenarios really isnt that hard, and actually adds to their unique voice and connection with the reader.
Additionally, although some of the information did not apply to me currently given certain personal choices, it was still a fantastic read, If youre not a fan of crude language and biologically accurate terminology though, maybe choose another dating book to read, I found it to be funny and refreshing, Sue me.

More than anything though, Ive come away with a newfound anger for the toxic patriarchal society we live in and just how much Ive put up with as a woman that I shouldnt have to simply because I thought it was normal.
Whether thats a good or bad thing is to be determined,

Sidenote: Nearly cried reading chapter, Related WAYYYY too hard

Oops,

I just binge listened to this audiobook in one go!

Ive been following lalalaletmeexplain on Instagram for a couple of years, and its been such a safe place to discuss sex, relationships and dating.


If you are someone who is currently single, dating, or in a relationship, and need some guidance navigating some tricky things, I highly recommend this book, as well as following her Instagram account.
The book by the anonymous Instagram account lalalaletmeexplain it discusses dating and relationships in the modern world, Not only does she go into the types of men youre bound to meet, the dangers of getting the ick and the stress of asking the “what are we” question she talks about attachment theory and how that can affect your relationships, defining what sexual violence can be and the orgasm gap amongst other things.
Lala is a trained social worker who has seen the worst of the worst and knows what shes talking about, She references other helpful Instagram accounts and the pdf that comes with the audiobook comes with resources to support women if they find theyre in an abusive relationship.
Rather enjoyed this Škoda, že si túto knihu neprečítalo moje mladšie ja, Ušetrila by mi slzy, zlomené srdce a pocity nepochopenia a osamelosti, No každá skúsenosť, aj tá negatívna nás formuje a posúva vpred, takže som koniec koncov za všetky tie sračky vďačná.
Kniha mi nepriniesla nič nové, nakoľko som si tou bolestnou cestou už prešla, Myslím si však, že by si ju mali prečítať všetky ženy, ktoré ešte stále nepoznajú vlastnú sebahodnotu a chcú za každú cenu randiť a zaplniť tak prázdno vo svojom vnútri.
Nezvyknem čítať takýto typ literatúry ale táto kniha je naozaj super, Okrem toho, že je napísaná pravdivo a vychádza zo skúseností autorky, odborných kníh a článkov je zároveň aj vtipná.
Priznávam sa, že v niektorých častiach knihy som sa dokonca našla aj ja a niektoré pasáže mi otvorili oči, Táto kniha nie je určená len pre ženy ale je určená pre každého, pretože hovorí o vzťahoch vo všeobecnosti a o tom, na čo si dávať pozor a akým situáciam predísť.


Rozdelenie kapitol je jasné a sú rozdelené na deväť hlavných častí, v ktorých okrem textu vieme nájsť aj stránky so sloganmi a rôznymi motivačnými citátmi a myšlienkami.
Všetky časti, ktoré citujú nejaké vedecké poznatky sú vysvetlené veľmi jasne,

V skratke túto knihu by som odporúčala prečítať všetkým, pretože je v nej sila a pomáha nám uvedomiť si našu hodnotu a to ako vnímame nie len ostatných ale aj samých seba.
Where to even start!! Amazing doesnt do it justice! It is the book I, like so many young teenage girls, needed amp still do. Lalala is like a friend, sister and teacher bundled into one in Block Delete Move On! There is so much to relate to in this book amp so many aha moments.
Brilliant advice coming from a qualified person combined with personal experiences made this an excellent read, I couldnt put it down, Everyone needs to read this Friends, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, cats amp dogs! Id of avoided so many shitty experiences that I thought were acceptable at the time if Id of known even half of what was in this book back then! I absolutely loved it! There is so much about this book that I absolutely loved, but I feel that it's important to address my issue with it first.
There were some places that standard patriarchal opinions/judgements crept in which weren't caveated to show that this is the unfortunate reality that exists and isn't how it should be but is the current reality if you see what I mean.
For those of us familiar with the patriarchal problem these are easy to spot and understand but for younger readers, it could be easy for them to accept that is how things are meant to be.
I was also a little put off by the advice about getting the man to pay on the first date and splitting the bill being a sign of disinterest on one or both sides.
Personally I neither want or need a new man to pay my way, that is a privilege that is earned on both sides, when we get to that point we pay each others way, early relationships should be financially balanced so there is no expectation of 'I paid for this so I deserve that'.


Those two issues aside, I loved Lala's approach to this, it is both a warm hug and a cold glass of water in the face for those wanting to be in or are in the dating game, with the cold hard reality given along side all the niceties.
Lala covers everything from getting through the apps, spotting those not there for genuine/pleasant reasons, and how to be safe throughout the whole process, which sadly is still something we all need to think about.
It is aimed at cis women dating cis men, which Lala explains at the outset as that is her experience, but I believe there is helpful information for everyone within its pages if I may be so bold to say so.
While much of this may be available elsewhere and may be known or obvious to many, having it all together in such a open, friendly chat kind of way just makes it that little bit easier and more comprehensive.
And a way for all readers to access without having to worry about leaving an internet trail that parents or others might find far easier to hide a book than digital fingerprints, even a bright pink book.
In theory, I didn't need to read this book, As somehow, with none of this advice or knowledge to hand, five years ago, I managed to find a 'decent man' on Tinder, and more recently, successfully convinced him to become my husband for I am indeed, a spectacular buff ting.


However, I know for a fact that ten years ago, myyear old self could have really done with this book, This book would have taught me everything I really needed to know, And whilst I have instead learned many of the lessons detailed in this book the hard way, it was oddly comforting to know that the red flags I missed and the experiences I now regret, did not only happen to me.
This book has helpedyear old me to normalise and accept that I was just doing the best I could with the little information I had at the time.
This book has helped me to let go of some of the shame I still carry with me from incidents I'd really rather forget,

So whilst definitely a significantly helpful resource for someone navigating dating apps, it still has relevance for those currently more settled in terms of relationships.


I willrecommend this book to all my friends and colleagues with daughters of a particular age group, Thank you to Bantam Press and Random Things Tours for my review copy,

“The sad truth is that when it comes to modern dating, there's a whole host of challenges and hurdles to overcome, From ghosting and negging to gaslighting and abuse, this book teaches you what to look out for, to make sure that you're not accidentally dating men with toxic traits who secretly hate women, or who just want to have sex and run.

It will empower you to use your voice and walk away if you spot warning signs in relationships, by highlighting the red flags and the types of fuckboy that you might run into when dating, as well as the green flags and signs that indicate a
healthy partnership.

This is not a dating book that promises to find you a person to love instead, it will help you spot the troublesome ones before it is too late.
It will help you to recognize that you possess spectacular buff ting energy and that it's perfectly possible to be contentedly single,
Most importantly, this book will give you the power to BLOCK, DELETE and MOVE ON with living your best life, ”

I couldnt put this book down, and thats rare for me when it comes to non fiction, The beauty of it is its also structured in a way that you could dip in and out of it too, whatever works for you, Penned by anonymous socialbased relationship expert LalalaLetMeExplain, Block Delete Move On complies her experiences of modern day dating, alongside the advice regularly given on her account.

Dating guidance, particularly for cis het women is often framed negatively, pointing out flaws and what we are doing wrong, Encouraging drastic changes and placing the onus of toxic behaviour in the wrong places, This book rejects this tradition and based on psychology, social work and personal experience, the author reframes archetypal relationship advice, championing self care and independence when it comes to relationships.
On an aesthetic level, I love the pop artstyle cover, and the colourful quotes and illustrations dotted throughout, A brilliant read!
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