Gather The Couple's Guide To Thriving With ADHD Sketched By Melissa Orlov Issued As Copy

helpful, interesting take on being in a relationship with someone with ADHD, It seems more geared for the ADHD spouse, Id recommend this to other interested therapists or clients, This book not only improved my wellbeing since I suffer from severe ADHD, but it also saved my relationship, Great practical ideas to help couples improve relationships when ADHD is a factor, Confusing chapter notations see chapterchapters are not numbered, There are also mistakes when the book references other sections, Pagenotes back to Hot Spot"things are never going to change" except Hot Spotisn't that things are never going to change.
That's Hot Spot. This makes for a confusing read, Overall it has some good basic ideas for couples who are just beginning to improve their relationship after an ADHD diagnosis, I recently started to talk to someone who has ADHD, He told me that he was taking care of his symptoms the best he could, But for me, I wasn't to knowledgeable about ADHD much less how to be with someone who has it, This book was a nice guide to understanding what ADHD and how to communicate without belittling them or becoming a parental partner.
So If I decide to pursue this relationship, I have information to have a better relationship with him, This book felt very one sided, going into depth about what the adhd partner needs to change to make the relationship work with very little focus on how the nonadhd partner can change approaches to work best with the adhd partner.
 
Also it felt like it was written as an advert for the author's other book it was mentioned so many times.
  Haven't quite finished this book intentionally, Finding it too negative, because it is written for couples already in "crisis" and/or not managing the ADHD effectively, The negative feel was bringing too much worry for me, But clearly the author is very knowledgeable amp would recommend

this book to others, If you are in a relationship impacted by adhd, read this!! Not the most wellwritten book, and using messageboard comments as an organizing structure limits the scope of the book.
That said, I feel that I understand the difficulties and abilities of ADHD partners much more fully, Best of all, I know how to react in a much more productive, respectful way, More and more often, adults are realizing that the reason they are struggling so much in their relationship is that they are impacted by previously undiagnosed adult ADHD.
Learning how to interact around ADHD symptoms is often the difference between joy together and chronic anger and frustration, So The Couples Guide to Thriving with ADHD lays out the most important strategies couples can use right now to rebuild trust, fight less, disagree more productively, get the attention they deserve, and rebuild intimacy in their relationship.
These are strategies honed over years of working specifically with couples impacted by ADHD, and demonstrated to change lives for the better.
Thrive is the goto book for couples struggling with ADHD who want to actively work to improve their relationship, Skip this book on ADHD, Any book on how to get along and divide responsibility in marriage equitably would be just as helpful, if not moreso,

Instead of writing a standalone book that would be useful for couples struggling with the problems of ADHD in their relationship, the authors have created a book that frequently refers back to issues only covered in their previous work.
The writing takes up a lot of space without saying anything of value,

There's no worthwhile advice in this book that cannot be easily gleaned with a quick internet search or even a short conversation with your spouse's psychiatrist the next time they go in to have their medication managed.


You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy is a much better book about the struggles of ADHD as an adult, despite not being geared specifically toward couples.
Very helpful guide for someone with ADHD, a quick read! If you've read the first book The ADHD Effect on Marriage this is a good followup book.
It's based on questions people ask from the website in order to clarify answers that were given elsewhere, While helpful, the format is sometimes confusing to understand, And for me, the "answers" were sometimes so vague it was as if they just gave some general quip about life and then expect you to figure it out on your own.
I enjoyed it when they were more clear about the answers they gave,

My biggest takeaway is:
The ADHD spouse must acknowledge the affect their symptoms have on their partner and the relationship, address the big issues, and fully treat their problematic symptoms.
Untreated ADHD is the biggest issue in ADHD marriages, It's like alegged stool, and alllegs must be consistently treated, Thelegs are: treat the physical, treat the habits/behaviors, attend to the partner,
The nonADHD spouse must be meek, forgiving, loving, patient, etc, . . and allow the ADHD spouse to make their own decisions about their body and actions, This presents to me like being willing to accept abuse, There are lots of tips about boundaries, choices, feelings, etc, . . but it boils down to choosing to stick out the marriage with someone who will always make their own choices as to whether they treat their ADHD or not.


It's never addressed in either book that the nonADHD spouse might have their own issues that need grace, Sometimes the advice comes across as one sided, leaning in favor of the ADHD spouse,
There are quite a few tips that rung true to me, But in this book, it just felt almost overwhelmingly off balance, giving the ADHD spouse leeway, while putting more responsibilities back on the nonADHD spouse to become more accepting of mistreatment and broken promises.


Every relationship is different, And while my relationship never fit fully into every explanation or scenario given, I did find helpful points along the way, But because this book came off as so offbalanced and abusetinted, I'm keeping the rating atstars, While the stories told and suggestions were valuable I didn't appreciate the assigned gender roles and assumptions, A more neutral approach would have this book more useful, .