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enjoyed this book and found it useful, I am even planning to buy it and go through it with my husband, The chapters cover different topics and give very reasonable and down to earth advice and information, It's just so usable and practical and I really liked that, Sometimes self help books are a little large on lofty ideas and short on practical getherdoneness, This one was plenty practical, At the end of each chapter are questions you can talk about with your spouse, or even just think about on your own.


There were two things I didn't love, First, they would give these little examples about couplesusually a couple in trouble, In most self help books when they employ this technique, we then see what happened to the coupleshow they worked out their issue or didn't.
In this book, they'd just leave you with a situation oh no, Joe and Suzy are in trouble in their marriage what will they do.
. . but then they never give the rest of the story, It really bugged me as I wanted some closure, They other thing I didn't like was that I felt that the book was just a little bit onesided where I felt like there was more advice for the spouse with a lower sex drive to kind of rise up and get going with the spouse who had a higher sex drive.
This makes a lot of practical sense again, I really liked the reasonableness of the book, The writers believe sex to

be healthy and good for a marriage as do I and they don't want people to drift into completely sexless marriages.
That said, it would have been nice to have more advice for the spouses with the higher sex drive to take it down a notch or maybe try to help the spouse with the lower drive.
And don't get me wrong it wasn't completely onesided at all, It was just a teeny tiny bit unbalanced I thought, This was a very small issue really, and one that can never be dealt with perfectly because at the end of the day, the spouses are going to have to work out the details on their own, but it did seem just the tiniest bit lopsided in that way.
I wasn't going to post this, cause, . . awkward. But I did find the book helpful so hopefully someone else will too, This book talks about intimacy in a straightforward yet tasteful way, and connects with lds church standards and doctrine, It got a little more "churchy" at times than I was expecting, because I think the principles they talk about apply to any couple, not just Mormons.
I think anyone just starting marriage or anyone who is feeling dissatisfied with the intimacy in their marriage would benefit from reading this book, especially as a couple.
This book is poorly produced, About how to build intimacy with your partner from LDS therapists mainly sexual intimacy, BEST book on the topic I've read so far, Even better than some marriage books, I came across this book through a Facebook post that referred to this book, I was interested in reading it because, as an LDS member of the church and Young Men's leader, it's a goal of mine to improve how to teach sexuality to the youth.
Trying to teach obedience and the importance of covenants rather than shunning and shaming the topic, This book was super insightful! I'd recommend this book to anyone, especially an LDS couple about to get married, or that was just recently married.
This went over a lot of principles and important teachings I think we, as members of the church, tend to merely gloss over.
I learned what real intimacy is from this book, It's a lot more complicated than one might think, Excellent book. Ok, yes, tough topic, but I think the authors did a remarkable job, It's not just about the nuts and bolts of sex which it tastefully deals with but it's also about intimacy on many different levels, and how you can achieve that with your partner.


I highly recommend this book for singles and couples alike, It was okay! I will have to read it again, I am so glad I agreed to review Real Intimacy, Ive connected with and related to more in this book than any other marriage book Ive read,

Each section is set up with an indepth look at the topic, a “Nuts and Bolts” overview for those who just want to read the basics, and followup questions for selfevaluation and discussion with your spouse.
I enjoyed reading indepth, while my husband who isnt a big reader appreciated the “Nuts and Bolts” overview, I thought that we knew each other pretty well after all of our talking these pastyears, but several of the discussion questions at the end of each section covered new ground for us.


Even more importantly, I am glad to have this book for my children, My oldest is almost, counting down to getting her drivers permit and not really thinking about marriage yet, In just a few short years, that will change, I appreciate how the authors clarify that there are many levels and aspects to intimacy, that sexual intimacy is only one part of that, and that sexuality is a gift from our Heavenly Father with the power to bond husband and wife together as well as create life.


I love how the authors clarify that a womans virtue and purity doesnt change or disappear after marriage.
Here is a quote from that section:

"We teach our young girls to be pure and virtuous, which they should be, but dont discuss with them how pure and virtuous they will continue to be within the confines of an intimate, marital relationship.
Their virtue doesnt change, it becomes enhanced with the added ability to create life as well as bring “life” to the relationship with their husband.
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Real Intimacy covers all four aspects of intimacy: physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual, It also covers the basics of human anatomy “Sex Edand later, the differences in the way men and womens brains function.
The authors dont shy away from addressing other topics such as husband and wife acting as stewards of their sex life and decided together what specifically is okay or not okay, as well as pornography, internet infidelity, sexual disorders, and when to get professional help.


In the last few years I have witnessed more than one marriage struggle and fail because of neither the husband nor wife understood the concepts addressed in this book.
I appreciate the upfront and direct way that the authors address intimacy and sexuality, not as something to be embarrassed about or ashamed of, but as a sacred gift from Heavenly Father to be appreciated and enjoyed.


I highly recommend Real Intimacy to all married or soontobe married couples, Intimacy is a precious part of any relationship, and even more so in marriage where a couple is able to experience a level of intimacy found nowhere else.
Its worth the time and effort to protect and develop every aspect of intimacy in marriage, and Real Intimacy is an excellent resource for married couples in all stages of life.


originally published on sitelinkwww, ldswbr. com Based on doctrinal principles and years of professional experience, counseling real people, this uplifting volume approaches marital intimacy with a genuine desire to help couples.
Learn to lovingly discuss your physical relationship with your spouse, identify false worldly ideas about sex, and reconcile your differing perspectives.
Informative and engaging, this book will answer all your questions as you learn to truly become one, .