Gain Access The Art Of Reading People: How To Deal With Toxic People And Manipulation To Avoid (or End) An Abusive Relation (Positive Psychology Coaching Series Book 19) Designed By Ian Tuhovsky In Digital Copy
Book
Explains various disorders and classifies behaviors and terms beautifully, Learnt a lot. And, helpful at a personal level too, Will reread it perhaps to crystallize the messages and concepts We cant get better at something until we know our own limits,
Author Ian Tuhovsky earned his BA in Sociology and works as an HR consultant for many varied European companies, In addition to recuperating from his personal experiences of low esteem and shyness as a child and teenager he has grown and matured to the point of sharing his experiences as an author of ten books that give evidence of his interest in studying the human mind and the society and offering keys to recovery and to finding happiness and success.
He calls this series the Positive Psychology Coaching Series, He also is a musician and composer,
In his Introduction he lays the groundwork for his new book Reading people, also known as social intelligence, involves looking at someone and seeing the deeper meaning behind their actions.
We often like to think we are reading people, But in reality, we are usually only guessing, How do we know we are guessing Because when we read people “naturally” were really only empathizing with them, We interpret their emotions and take on their feelings are our own, And then we create our own stories around those feelings, Doing this presents a challenge, Empathy ensures that we look after each other, that we do not cause undue harm, that we show care and consideration even for people outside of our immediate social circle.
Empathy is the reason humans make great parents, or that charitable giving and volunteering makes the world a better place, But empathy can also give rise to solipsism or nihilism, Solipsism means to assume that your reality is the only “real” reality, When you are a solipsist, you act as though everything you perceive, think, and feel is objective, Which means that if someone else perceives, thinks, or feels differently, we judge them as “wrong”, Being a nihilist is a little different, Nihilism denies that there is any distinct “real” or “subjective” reality, When you are a nihilist you act as though anything abstract lacks meaning, A problem arises with that perspective because to us everyone else's mind is abstract! We accidentally go back to solipsism, So, our “reality” becomes the rule and we dismiss everyone else's reality as a meaningless bit of abstract thought, When we try and read people naturally, using empathy, we aren't reading them at all, We are just judging them based on how we would feel, or what we would think if we were in their situation, This works very well when we are childrearing or donating to charity, When someone cant tell us what they think and feel, we must use our own thoughts and feelings to gain some perspective, This method also works well when we are interacting with people similar to ourselves, However, when a person knows us, is in front of us, and is intentionally deceiving us, empathy does not work! If deception occurs, we need to start being more analytical and start truly reading a person.
When we begin reading them, we have to accept that this person may not be who they claim to be, They may be telling lies, Relating fake experiences. Showing fake feelings. Successful reading begins when we unravel their web of lies and get to the real reason behind it, To actually read someone we need to step outside our own shoes, Because the sort of person who fakes their emotions and lies about what they have experienced and what they think differs from us,
And so we are off on exploring why reading people correctly is important, personality types psychos, borderlines, codependence mental health and toxic relationships, narcissism and the delusion of importance, sadism and myriad other aspects of reading people and their personality types an dhow that affects our perception of ourselves.
Like all of Ians books this is a down to earth healthy approach to positive psychology,
Audiobook
First time listening to this author and narrator, both did great I have no problem listening to this author or narrator, The narrator has a perfect voice for this genre,
Great book for self help on how to avoid toxic people, a eye opener for sure, كتاب جديد من نوعه على ما أعتقد يتحدث الكاتب عن الأشخاص الغير أعتياديين الذين يؤثرون سلبيا على حياتك و طريقة حياتك بأكملها و هم الأشخاص ذوي العقد النفسية و كيف يؤثرون في حياتك يتعرض الكاتب لكل نوع من هذه الأمراض ويشرح تأثيرها على من يصاحبها و يضع أمثلة حية لتقريب الصورة.
كتاب جيدجدا لكل من يريد أن يتعرف على من حوله بطريقة جميلة Good information about how to deal with different types of people
This is a good book to learn more about personality types and how to deal with different people.
I think some types of personality traits and disorders can be hard to pin point or fully identify in some people, Particularly people who may demonstrate certain behaviors and traits that are inconsistent with most interactions however, its interesting to learn more about how some mental disorders can be observed in some people who demonstrate certain patterns about how they think and behave.
Nonverbal cues are a great way to learn more about someone, Observe their hand gestures, movements, and facial expressions and you will see, In some instances, a person may have more than one personality disorder, which can be confusing! Personally, I take the safest route possible when it comes to dealing with someone who demonstrates extreme emotions or impulses.
Most importantly, some people are just a bit too scary if you really truly get to know them! Finished it insessions, the good thing is that the book is pretty easy to read, mostly written in simple terms.
Almost stopped after the firstpages as I cant relate to the book and do not know how it can help me, Decided to finish what i have started and finished the rest inhours, The later part of the book is alright, The Art of Reading People
Very eye opening, insightful, interesting and informative, Will try to read the rest of his books, Good read for every HR, Director As the title suggests, the book centres around handling "bad" people, The whole approach is negative perhaps because it talks about "negative" people, On reading the book , the reader would end up scouting for negative qualities in whoever he comes across though that apparently is not the intention of the book.
Open and honest or a closed book Ian Tuhovsky Explores The Art Of Reading People
How many times have you assumed that you knew somebody and what they were about, only to be completely blindsided when they behave in a way that contradicts everything you thought you knew
Reading between the lines
We often think we have a fair
amount of ability in reading people until the moment when were proven wrong.
Chances are that youve heard the phrase, I read you like a book which indicates that somebody has understood anothers thought processes to the point that theyre able to predict what that person might do next.
Known as social intelligence, we like to kid ourselves that we are reading people when, in effect, we are mostly just guessing, In fact, for most people, reading people is really just thinly disguised empathy where they are projecting their own feelings and thoughts onto the situation and reading it accordingly.
Reading you loud and clear
Without the superpowers of a mindreader, many of us suffer the consequences of ineffectual people reading throughout our lives.
In his new book Ian Tuhovsky explores the art of reading people and, through a number of exercises and tutorial content, shows the reader how to more effectively identify and interpret the behavior of others in order to more fully understand their motivations and intentions.
In "The Art of Reading People", Ian Tuhovsky explains:
How to identify manipulative and toxic personalities and the four personality types we should be aware of those who are good and good for us, those who are good but bad for us, those who are bad but good for us and, those who are bad and bad for us
The dangers of simplistic labelling such as good and bad
Differentiating between subjective and objective goodness
How to identify the ways you are being manipulated by others without being aware of it
How to read your relationships with others in order to understand your role in them
Decoding the language that others use particularly when they want something from you
How to identify nihilists and solipsists
How to understand your own emotional reaction to the behavior of others
Understanding people and what motivates their behaviors is the first step toward being able to predict future behaviors in order to avoid repeating mistakes.
Tuhovsky explains how to master the process of reading people through their behavioral patterns in order to manage your expectations and to preempt certain destructive personality traits.
A mustread for those who constantly find themselves being let down or manipulated by others,
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