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and accessible, this book is a great guide on how to view our multiple selves and how aspects of the self are both stable and mutable at the same time, and provides plenty of practical wisdom on how to view the projects of our lives.
point something. This book has made me regret me not taking any psychology courses in University, I learned heaps about personality and in essence, what makes us tick,
It has given me a lot to ponder and an understanding how my personality can hinder or help my goals in life as well as dealing personalities that are quite different from my own.
This is easily one of my favorite books that I read this year, and I think the most important, Dr. Brian R. Little's conversational writing style makes the important concepts he introduces digestible without being elementary, I'd highly recommend this book to anyone wanting to do some selfreflection at the end of this year or beginning or next and/or looking to understand those they interact with every day.
I heard the author interviewed on the radio and decided I definitely wanted to read his book, Unfortunately, I think I heard the best bits in the interview, Or it may be that I shouldnt attempt psychology books in the summer time, I wasnt as impressed as I expected to be, although I still appreciate the book,

I think by now that the vast majority of introverts have read Susan Cains Quiet : the Power of Introverts in a World that Cant Stop Talking.
Its our manifesto, reminding us that introverts are necessary and important to our society which seems to value extraverts over us,

And yet, like most introverts, I know that I can push myself to act extraverted, I got going on that in my twenties and Im just ramping down from that effort in my fifties, But, as Brian Little states in Me, Myself, and Us, there is a price for that, Ive spent decades pushing myself to go out into the world and do things, attend events, make acquaintances, My schedule was often so full that I when I actually got a day to myself, I wouldnt even bother to get dressed.
Pajama days, I called them, when I didnt have to go anywhere or be anybody, I just collapsed in a heap, I also treasured the occasional evenings at home, doing my own thing, like the exemplary introvert that I am,

Recently, my financial advisor was holding an

appreciation evening for all of his clients and he was pressing me to attend.
I asked, “Is this one of those evenings where we juggle wine glasses and little plates and have to make conversation with complete strangers” He got an odd look on his face hes an extravert and replied, “Yes.
” I told him that Id been forcing myself to do stuff like that for decades and now that I was well over, I was no longer willing to suffer in that fashion.
I believe my exact words were, “Id rather stick needles in my eyes, ” He amp his partner eventually laughed about it, but it was obvious that they had no idea how much discomfort such situations cause for us introverts.


So I have some sympathy for extraverted folks who are made to try to sit still amp quiet in classrooms, expected to study quietly in libraries, and not be disruptive in offices.
They are having to stifle their essential selves and it is not easy, It takes a lot of energy and good coping strategies,

I appreciated the reminder from Little that we have our essential nature, but we also have the ability to choose other behaviours, that we must plan to recover from such efforts, and that others are making similar efforts.
I also enjoyed the chapters on personal projectsand the advice to help with those projects that have been foisted upon you by your family, your spouse, your boss and find time for the selfchosen projects that actually make life meaningful.


A good book to choose if you frequently feel like your life is being pushed off course by forces beyond your control.
A fluid read dissecting the creative and conventional self with some assessments along the way, I'd recommend it!

Creatives tend to be:
B vs, A students
in need of a more conventional person's support in order for ideas to come to fruition
introverted vs, extroverted although extroverts may claim and readily share what they perceive as creative
less agreeable
thrive in cities
high self monitors adapting aspects of persona to others they engage with
last borns
intuitive not sensing
exhibit free traits ex: acting out of character more extroverted or agreeable, etc.
to gain attention or heighten confidence for a cause
weird university of British Columbia Western, Educated. Industrialized. Rich. Democratic.
geographic location and personality Florida conscientiousness, Minnesota agreeableness, New York openness, North Dakota outgoing,

Featured quote I like:
On self reconciliation Owen Flanagan
"It is inevitable, but also my wish that you save the last dance for me.
Never mind the clumsiness, we know each other well by now, And let's hope this seems both romantic and reasonable that value is detected as we embrace, . . but it should be more than mere infatuation, This life should really mean something, Respect, even selfreferential respect, should be warranted, It will be good to feel peace of mind, to be comfortable, to sense integrity, and effort, and to recognize that we have had some fun.
Remember, if anyone knows you really remembers and knows you especially how you dance, it is me, Cha,cha,cha. " A great read indeed. In this deftly written, entertaining and thoughtprovoking book, personality psychologist Brian Little discusses, explores, deconstructs and even reconstructs various personality theories with profound insights and humour.
I listened to this book on Audible and I enjoyed the research review so much that I am going to take a second listen.
Professor Brian Little is a Harvard "Personality" Psychologist and one of the World's experts on the subject of personality, I am intrigued and wonder about how much of our personalities are "hardwired" and genetic versus how much flexibility we have to alter them.
My clients know how much I believe FLEXIBILTY in our lives is so important, Dr. Little educates us on why the Myers Briggs in an unreliable and invalid test I just heard your collective sigh, and really blows up what is so misunderstood about our understanding of personalities.
I learned that I am an "ambivert" I am actually right in the middle between extrovert and introvert, I do recommend this book to everyone, if for no other reason than food for thought and great conversation, In contrast with theories that emphasize unconscious determinants of personality, humanistic psychologists emphasized the more active and growth oriented aspects of human behavior.
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If you answered in a fit of honesty, damn right! then you may find lots to object to here, unless you are brave and curious enough to settle down and read the book already.

Or if, like most of us, your answer is most likely to be a cookie jar face and a vehement, who me : well you have nothing to fear, do you

Our illusions are often are often collusions with others who may or may not be invested in our longterm welfare.
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Brian R Little has given us an amplified frame for our experience, an effective construct that allows us to navigate our mutable selves, rather than allow them to steer.
Ultimately, his inquiry is focused on the question of free will and how it shows up as we attempt to establish agency and control the shape of our lives.


You are not simply a passive pawn manipulated entirely by forces beyond your control, even though you may have your doubts when you wake up and reflect on what an idiot you were last night.
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We need to make sure that the buttons we have in our lives are, in fact, hooked up.
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