Snag He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth To Understanding Guys Published By Lauren Monchik Publication

burns, it burns! I'm not talking about the truth, . . in that sense, this book confirms what I already know, It's just frustrating to read all these letters from women who have let such bullshit go on for so long, and Greg's response is pretty much the same every time.


Also, the book assumes you want a serious relationship, Personally, I don't. But I don't want to feel dicked around either, I assume that most women are smart enough to know the difference between dating around and getting played by several guys at a time,

I really hope women aren't reading the information in this book like it's news, Its sole purpose should be to serve as a nice pickmeup when you're feeling down about a breakup, Of course there are a million guys out there who would love to date you and of course you shouldn't waste your time on the one who doesn't.


I guess I shouldn't expect anything terribly groundbreaking in a book about relationships, It's been a long time since I've read such a book, but maybe I needed to if only to remember how far I've come!, I suppose this book was a bestseller because it's one of the better ones, For better or worse, I LOVED this book and do consider it to be life altering for me okay, to an extent, I realize it's been trash talked times ten in the media since it first came out but I do think it's extremely underrated,

I read it as a first year grad student and remember all these light bulbs going off in my head as I eagerly scanned the pages for information.
As I read the letters and stories in the book, so much of my life started making sense to me! I started to see what I was doing "right" and what I was doing "wrong" and after I finished the book and reflected on it a bit, I really did change my approach to dating.
And you know what It worked,

I think what I really like about the book, that it really doesn't get credit for, is that it promotes independence, The main message is that knowledge is power and even if things aren't the way you want them to be, at least if you know then you can go on to something else.
That was the main message that resonated with me and that's why I think it's a really empowering book for females, from this book, i learned that apparently, alldates i've gone on in the last half year, as well as thepeople who i've gone on them with, have been completely worthless and i was stupid to think otherwise.
just plain stupid!! an advisable future plan is as follows: i must wade through a sea of unworthy men at a steady rate of about five dates per week, allowing myself to take no action outside of accepting or declining their suggestions.
sadly, they are all bound to not be that into me, but i must perservere "ladies, please, keep your eye on the prize," page, this will last for approximately ten years, after which i'll find the ONE person in the world who actually IS that into me, who will ideally suggest that we get hitched and make babies.
i will, of course, accept his suggestion, too bad i have to reconceptualize my life, i was just looking for a funny study break,

My coworkered referred to Greg the author as my "patron saint," and, for better or for worse, he's right, Greg has become the voice in my head when it comes to guys, mainly because he's always right, I wish this book had been around when I was younger, though it has become very useful in my's,

This is a book I constantly pick up again, just to refresh my memory, and just to feel a little bit better when I'm feeling down "Don't Waste the Pretty".
It's funny, it's honest, and it's always right, I read this book when I was aboutand it gave me that moment were everthing I new about guys was thrown out the door! Reading this book is like a slap in the face and makes you feel guilty for all those embarrassing times you were watching your phone waiting for someone to call!
When really you should be out there doing things that make you happy, meeting the person who is going to call you and be there for you no matter what happens.


Having chased guys who I thought I was interested in, wasting my time, thoughts and effort,
After reading this book I was like 'right that's it! Long gone are the days I am focusing on guys who are not that into to me and focus my efforts into my future eg.
Uni, sport. '

After sticking to this frame of mind and thinking when meeting guys, I did meet the love of my life, who yes, was that into to me to put the effort into a long term relationship and love me whole heartedly!

Very worth reading!! Best relationship advice ever! I didn't even finish it.


I thought it was going to be an empowering book about women taking control of their choices, but instead i found a book that is just plain sexist.

I've never HATED a book before, but this might as well be my first,

So, ALL men are moved by sex And they just like you or not That thinking is called 'dichotomy thinking', Is just as bad as when us women call all men bad and it's plain NOT TRUE,

Yeah,

there may be those kind of guys, but they are not the rule,
Men are not as bidirectional as this book makes them sound, People are more complicated, and women should take action,
Let me tell you why women would want to choose this behavior instead: It releases us from responsibilities,
It gives us the freedom of saying: He didn't called, so that wasn't meant to happen,
Or: If he doesn't try hard enough, then he doesn't like me,

Well guess what relationships are TWOSIDED!
If only one of two sides is trying, it's not going to work,
I'm not saying women should let men treat them like dirt, but if he is the only one trying there, you're the one treating him that way.

People don't fall in love from the first moment no matter what people might think they're just attracted,
There has to be knowledge to be love,

Attraction is not the only thing that keeps a relationship, and it's not HIS duty to fall in love with you at the first moment.

There are people who don't like another UNTIL they know them, Because that's how we are,

So, I just thought this book was pure and utterly and pardon me for my vocabulary shit,
Don't let man treat you like dirt, take control of your own life, And if really, a guy is not into you, don't you wait around hoping he will,
You are too valuable to sit around and wait, Good God, this book reeks of Stone Age, sexism and untifemininism,

The author, Greg Behrendt, is a comedian, worked as a consultant on Sex and the city, has been on tons of well known talk shows, and all this somehow made him into a Love Guru.
He felt like he was sitting on so much knowledge, that could help clueless poor women, that he decided to write a book and share his wisdom with the world.


The reason I picked up this book, was because I wanted to read funny stories about dating, And this book had plenty of those, But my god did it stank bullshit,
The book is written from two peoples point of view, Greg, who wastes no time giving advice "dump him", and Liz, who's job is to point out the grey areas in relationships.
Unlike Greg, she believes that not everything is black and white, that some relationship are more complicated, At first I thought it was interesting, that she was questioning his relationship advice, trying to point out that not all men are pigs, with hidden agendas, mommy issues, secretly set on using and abusing all women in their paths, because someone, at some point in their lives did them wrong.
You read halfway into her argument and think "This Liz chick is onto something, " But then you get to the end of every chapter and get "I hate to admit it, but Greg is right, " And you get this uncontrollable urge to hit something,

Let me give you some examples, Greg believes that a woman should never approach a man first, Liz comes in arguing that some women are gogetters, they see something/someone they want, and go for it, That there is nothing wrong with that, Greg aka self proclaimed Love Guru, takes her's "there is nothing wrong with that" and raises her with "Do you really want a man who is so lazy that he doesn't even bother to talk to you Imagine having a relationship with such jewel.
" Because if a man was really into you, he would always, ALWAYS, get his ass up, come over and try to talk to you, And of course, OF COURSE, Liz thought that Greg had a good point, Yeah, some men might be intimidated by powerful women, but if he is really into you, he will get off his lazy ass and approach you.
Because there is no other explanation why a man would not approach a woman first, other than he's lazy, or likes things being handed to him.


Ladies, assume your submissive positions and wait for the Prince Charming to make his move,

Also, the use of word "we" annoyed me to no end, When Greg talked about men, he always used "we men" like he was talking on behalf of all male species, "We men like approaching women, We love the chase. We are made this way, That's who we are. That's how we do things, So what that my mother had a stroke, If I was into you, I would call and tell you about it right away, If I haven't, I'm just not into you, It's that simple. "

Then there is Greg saying "Men are not complicated, Although we would like you to think we are, " Men are just as complicated as women, because they are HUMAN BEINGS! WITH FEELINGS!

Don't even get me started on the part where Greg explains to the ladies thatisA.
M. Insert RAGE!
Or the part where he talks about marriage, That if a man is really into you, he will want to marry you one day, If he's not asking, something is wrong, It is one thing when a woman wants that, but to say that if he's really into you, he will want to marry you, Yeah you've been together for a long time, he's committed to you in every way, the relationship is great, but if he says he doesn't want to get married, READ FLAG! What the fuck was this woman doing not bringing this up in the early stages of their relationship Oh, wait, we're suppose to wait til the man makes the first move.


Then you have: men find very satisfying to get what they want,
That's why women should stay put and wait for things to happen, because we do not, Insert rage.

Then there is "friends to lovers" thing, According to Greg, if a man is interested in being more than a friend to you here he talked about going from long time friendship to romantic relationship, he will always, ALWAYS, want to take relationship further.
Because, you know, men find it very satisfying to get what they want and all that, Because they don't have the ability to foresee the consequences that could lead to ruining the friendship, AND, because they don't care about that anyway, at least not enough to think for a second if anything good will come out of it,

Then there is the part where a man will find a way to get ahold of you even if you didn't give him your phone number.
If he's really into you that is, Ah, E. L. James would be truly proud,

And this is not even halfway through the book! I could rant about it all day,
The bottom line of this book is: yeah, you are a big deal, successful and well accomplished, beatiful and interesting, but stay tight, if a guy is truly interested in you, he'll find you.


The only time the importants of communication was mentioned, it was fallowed by "but, . "

The most depressing part about the book was the ending, where Liz was summarizing her thoughts on dating and Greg's advice about it, Regardless of what she thought, the Greg ended up being right, His advice and wisdom is gold, according to her, The book ended with her saying she feels lonely sometimes, it sucks being single, but it's better to be single than being in a bad relationship.
Which is true. But Liz is staying put, at the age ofthis book was written a while back, she should benow, without approaching men herself, successfully dating in NY I think.


This book had its funny moments, but I really hope that no one, who bought this book, took Greg's advice to heart, Otherwise we will never get rid of Stone Age mentality, .