learned a lot from reading this book, Did I think I was a perfectionist before reading the book, no I was raised that failure wasn't an option and you had to do the best in everything but that was just everyday life stuff and who I was.
But now that I am getting up there in age, and was letting go of things that I didn't like about me anymore, along came this book.
It not only gave me permission to let them go but it also showed me what I could do to help myself, These things I wanted to let go of was causing me stress, unhappiness and I, yes, I have to say it, I wanted to be better than that.
This book has helped me understand what was happening, and it is showing me how I can be the person I want to become.
I still have work to do but already not only I but others can see the difference in me, I knew I was always hard on myself but didn't realize I was on others, I thought I just accepted they couldn't do it as well as I could but I guess I came across as making them feel inadequate.
I am thankful the book is being published and think so many people will be able to get so much out of it, I received an advanced copy through NetGalley for an honest review, I took a DNA test and it turns out I am ATHAT PERFECTIONIST, Aka, practically all of them, This is a helpful, relatively short, book on thekinds of perfectionism and the rationalemotive behavioral therapeutic approach to escaping the damaging perfectionism cycle, I appreciated the presentation of REBT, There are a lot of faulty and harmful beliefs within each perfectionism, and it has been incredibly revealing for me to examine my own, In that respect, much of this book is very, very useful, It is a little repetitive, and the writing sometimes a little trite or too, . . enthusiastic. Bordering on cheerleadery. But it is definitely worth a read for anyone who struggles with perfectionism and wants a more intellectual or rational approach to undoing its lies and ill effects.
Practiced recovering from my four selforiented perfection types by not reading every line of this bookthe ! Exclamation ! Points ! Finally ! Got ! To me! But I did learn some things and the exercises are helpful if you dont already journal to reflect.
“Love yourself”by treating yourself as your own best friend Aristotle,
In having compassion for others, there is hope for peace of mind.
Dont lose sight that were all human, inhabit the same imperfect world, and encounter similar life challenges,
The examples were relatable, The guidelines given to overcome the urge to become perfect feel practical, This book helped me to understand
the bad effects of trying to become perfect, A A very concise, practical guide to selfknowledge and greater serenity in the midst of lifes imperfection, As a former perfectionist, I appreciate this book, There aredifferent types of perfectionist presented in this book, Each type is driven by very different fallacies and Dr, Cohen helps you uncover which type you, your loved ones or coworkers are and which fallacies drive you/them, I have been a fan of Albert Ellis and REBT therapy since grad school, so I was pleasantly surprised to find out the author worked along with Ellis to develop a logicbased therapy based on REBT philosophy.
I found the Six Step Method and advice offered to be sound, Id recommend this book to anyone who is a perfectionist or lives with or counsels perfectionists, Five. "In Making Peace with Imperfection Dr, Cohen provides an easy to use application of his logicbased therapy methodology for those struggling with perfectionism, This book highlights why perfectionism is such a destructive way of being, provides a detailed description of its various strains and how to effectively deal with each.
I'd highly recommend this book for anyone who is plagued by patterns of perfectionistic thinking or behavior!” Guy du Plessis, MA, Research Consultant at the ISystem Institute for Transdisciplinary Studies, Utah State University an author of An Integral Foundation for Addiction and its Treatment and An Integral Guide to Recovery Demanding perfection in everything you do can create a life of stress, worry, and overload.
With this essential selfhelp guide, youll learn to escape the perfectionism trap and cultivate unconditional selfacceptance in an imperfect world,
Are you a perfectionist Do you wear this title like a badge of honor, even though it creates needless stress in your life Ironically, the stress you create by demanding perfection from yourself and others can actually make it harder to achieve your goals in the long run.
It can also alienate you from friends, family, and coworkers, So, how can you escape the perfectionism trap and start living a life of selfcompassion
In this informative and practical resource, author Elliot Cohen reveals the ten types of perfectionism, and gives you the tools and skills you need to move past this distressing mind set before it leads to chronic stress, anxiety, anger, or even depression.
Using strategies grounded in evidencebased rational emotive behavior therapy REBT, youll discover how your perfectionism is actually a result of irrational beliefs, learn to challenge these beliefs, and replace negative thoughts with compassionate ones.
Being a perfectionist can affect virtually every decision you make, and every action you takeleading to a life of perpetual stress, This book can help you put a stop to the absolutist thinking behind your perfectionism and take steps toward a calmer, more balanced way of being.
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